How You Can Turn Hesitation and Fear Into Positive Dating Experiences
Posted Aug 01 2008 6:13am
You are sitting next to the phone, staring a small scrap of paper in your hand. There is the name of thebeautiful woman you met last nightand scrawled just below it are ten digits, her phone number.
You’re sweating. Your throat is tightening. Your heart beats faster and faster. Youpick up the phoneand begin dialing. This is it. It’s make or break time.
You finger grazes over the last number on the dial pad and suddenly, in a fit of nervousness, you hang up. A wave of guilt rushes through your head. You begin to rationalize your cowardice.
"Tomorrow…yea, I’ll wait to call tomorrow. She’s probably busyand it’s too soon to call anyways," you say to yourself.
Ten days later…
You are walking out the door and happen to glance at a small scrap of paper sitting on the top of your burrow. It’s sitting there collecting dust.
"I should have called her sooner," you think, "She probably won’t even remember who I am. Well, it’s too late now."
You let out a heavy sigh, pick up the scrap of paper and toss it in the trash can.
Procrastinating in your dating life?
Has this situation ever happened to you? Have you ever been in a moment where youprocrastinated in your dating life? Have you ever lost the person of your dreams because you were too nervous to make a move? Unfortunately, this hesitation is all too common, particularly for those of us that are still new to the dating scene.
Despite what Hollywood has taught us, there is never going to be that perfect magical moment. You will never have thatspecial love scene, where you swoop into each others arms and ride off into the sunset. Life isn’t like that and you shouldn’t wait for it.
Less than perfect dating experiences
The truth is thatyour dating experienceswill be less than perfect. It’ll be scary. It’ll be clumsy. And it’ll be awkward. That’s the way it is and you can’t think that you can avoid these things. Better yet, you should learn to embrace them. Rather than running away, work with what you have in the moment.
So how do you avoid the hesitation and take matters into your own hands? Easy. You just keep pushing through the fear barrier and use whatever is at your disposal.
If all you have is a squeaky voice and a stomach full of butterflies, then go with it. Even if it means failure. Because if you don’t at least try, you’ll never know what would’ve happened.
You are not James Bond, withall kinds of fancy gadgetsand perfect timing at your disposal. No, you are MacGyver. All you have is this little crappy Swiss Army knife and a roll of Duct tape. The clock is ticking and you either use the materials you have with you or you fail. That’s just the way it is, accept it and live it.
"Hi, this is MacGyver. We all know how these things work, so when you hear the beep, go for it." - MacGyver’s answering machine