How To Lose An Assclown in 90 Days Excerpt: The Trap of Compassion & Projection with Assclowns
Posted Dec 02 2008 10:38am
I thought it was time to post a little excerpt which, judging by the comments on my last post, 'Why do we throw ourselves at bad relationships and then wonder why it hurts?', is rather timely.
In How to Lose An Assclown in 90 Days, I explain the 7 Deadly Trappings of Relationships with Assclowns and one of them is our tendency to be too compassionate and couple it with projection:
"I’m going to cut right to the chase and be blunt – men are not children that you need to raise from the ground up. It’s not about taking a man with rocky foundations (or even non-existent) and building your vision of him on top of it and teaching him how to be. I hate to break it to you, but one, if not two people, have already parented the man that is in front of you. Someone else gave birth to him and he has grown up and the end result has been an assclown, or at the very least, a man that behaves like an assclown to you.