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how should you preper for first time masturbating?


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how should you preper for it?
 
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Masturbation Ceremony for Women

If you haven’t already done so, take yourself on the Looking At Yourself through the Eyes of a Lover tour. Arrange a loving space for yourself—soft lighting, comfortable pillows, sensuous music, aromatic scents, and beautiful objects. Make sure you will not be disturbed for at least an hour. This is very important because getting out of your mind and into your body is a key to opening up to full sexual pleasure. If you are worried about being interrupted you won’t be able to let go into your play.

            Approach your loving from the outside in—start with delicate strokes of your arms, face, neck, and thighs. Use your fingertips, a feather, and a piece of silk to lightly tantalize your tender skin. If it helps to arouse you, begin your self-loving with an erotic fantasy. But once you are turned on, let the fantasy go and focus on what is happening in your body. Remember, to fly free in sexual bliss you need to leave your “daily mind” behind.

            Begin to massage your breasts, try a light touch with large circles—counterclockwise then clockwise and gradually increase the pressure. Move slowly in toward your nipples. Experiment with tweaking them, pulling them, gentling circling them until they are stiff and tingling. You may feel a direct line of heat from your breasts down to your genitals.

            Trail one hand down across the flesh of your belly, reveling in the softness of your skin, its warmth and sensitivity. Feel your pulse racing beneath its surface. Flutter your hand across the fluffy bush of your pubic hair. Delight at its texture—is it thick and crinkly, long and fine? Is there a light dusting of hair or a full coarse bush?

            Move gently to explore your vulva—the fleshy outer lips and the welcoming inner lips. Explore with delicate, tentative and awe-filled fingers. Find the clitoris—its hood, shaft, and glans. Slip your fingers gently past your perineum and on to your anus. Allow yourself to consider this “forbidden gate” as a source of potential pleasure.

Begin the dance of your fingers. Use plenty of good quality lubricant. Stimulate your clitoris, start slowly and build up speed and pressure. Try different spots—the sides and the head. Build your pleasure up and then slow it down. Tease yourself with loving playfulness. With your other hand continue to stroke your body or brush your nipples. Touch your heart chakra to deepen the connection between sex and loving.

Dip your fingers into your honey-pot. Squeeze your fingers with your ever-strengthening PC muscles. Moisten your fingers with your juices—smell them and taste them. There are many female aromas and tastes—tart, pungent, salty, and sweetish. Yours are uniquely you.

Increase the speed and pressure of your stimulation. When you find a stroke or combination that gives you particular pleasure continue it. If you have not had much experience with orgasm, if your clitoris does not seem particularly sensitive to stimulation you may want to experiment with a vibrator.  Perhaps you may want to use one hand to stimulate your clitoris and the other inside your pulsing vagina. Or you may want to use a dildo for vaginal pleasure. Lightly tap the perineum as if you were pulsing out a rhythm on a fine hand drum. Circle your anus; teasingly insert a brave finger inside. Dare to feel everything you’ve dreamed of. Doing the Sexual Fire Breath as you love yourself will help to increase your pleasure.

As you practice self-pleasuring do not hurry to reach orgasmic release. You are your own lover—you have all the time in the world to come to bliss. Increasingly bring yourself to the edge of orgasm then slow down and practice the Passion Pump to move your energy through you. When you do go into orgasmic contraction use slow controlled breathing to ride the wave longer and longer. Your orgasms will increase in intensity and will move throughout your body rather than be centered in your genitals.

To complete your self-pleasuring ritual rest for a while, breathe deeply and enjoy the sensations coursing through your body. Thank yourself, aloud, for giving yourself this wondrous gift. Tell yourself, aloud, “I love you _______” (speak your name).

 

 

Masturbation Ceremony for Men

Arrange a loving space for yourself—soft lighting, comfortable pillows, sensuous music, aromatic scents, and beautiful objects. Set the scene as if you were going to seduce the most desirable lover you have ever met. Make sure you will not be disturbed for at least an hour.

Approach your loving from the outside in—start with delicate strokes of your arms, face, neck, and thighs. Use your fingertips, a feather, or a piece of silk to lightly tantalize your hungry flesh, and gradually increase the pressure. This may be uncomfortable for some men because men are more accustomed to diving straight to the genitals and also to approaching their bodies with firm handling. But what you are doing is helping to arouse and excite your entire body, to make your whole body an erogenous zone, not just your genitals.

If it helps to arouse you, begin your self-loving with an erotic fantasy. But once you are turned on, let the fantasy go and focus on what is happening in your body. Remember to fly free in sexual bliss you need to leave your “daily mind” behind.

Caress, fondle, and tweak your nipples. Nipples are big turn-on zones for men too! Run your hands down over your belly. Stroke the inside of your thighs. Tease yourself a little before you latch onto “John Thomas”. Pull the crinkly hair of your pubis. Using plenty of good quality lubricant massage the muscles around the root of your penis and down into your strong inner thighs and the crease of your groin. Push on your perineum, feeling the spongy nut of your prostate under the skin, circle it with loving pressure first counterclockwise then clockwise. Trail your fingers to your anus, run them round the sensitive rim and allow a finger to move inside for exciting exploration. This can be very pleasurable and can help you learn the joy of surrender to penetration as well as being the active “penetrator”.

Caress your scrotum. Tickle your balls, pull them gently away from your body, and then increase the pull. Finally, move to your penis, your jade stalk, your golden rod. Stroke its full length and lightly squeeze its head. Vary the speed, length and pressure of your strokes. Try the “corkscrew”, gently twisting your penis as you pull it up and away from your body. At the same time twist and pull your scrotum down and away.

Remember to pay attention to the rest of your body. Run one hand up and down your belly, massage your ears (they’re full of highly sensitive spots), and suck on your fingers. To increase the connection between sex and loving, place one hand on your heart chakra and cradle your genitals with the other.

As you love yourself notice how your penis moves through distinct changes before orgasm and ejaculation—he is not just soft and then hard and spewing. Through attentive self-arousal you can learn how to stay for longer periods of time in the exciting, but less explosive, third stage of firm erection. When you feel yourself moving into the hard, hot level stop stimulation, relax and pay attention to your breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. The first number of times you practice this you may need to apply the Penis Tip Squeeze.  Later, add the Passion Pump to move the energy up through your body. Do not focus on stopping ejaculation, instead focus on moving that wild sexual energy up through your body. Run your hand(s) in stroking movements up over your belly and chest to your head and crown. Sound helps too—make lots of it. With practice you will be able to surf the intense wave of high sex energy for longer and longer periods of time without cresting over into ejaculation. If you do ejaculate enjoy it!

To complete your self-pleasuring ritual rest for a while, breathing deeply, and enjoy the sensations coursing through your body. Massage your perineum to help disburse any energy still congested there.  Thank yourself, aloud, for giving yourself this wondrous gift.

 

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