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How do I talk to my partner about sex?

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How do I talk to my partner about sex?
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When it comes to sex, everyone is different. Something that pushes all the buttons for one person could be a big turn-off for someone else.

Unless you're a mind reader, you'll need to tell your partner what you enjoy. By communicating with your partner, you can find out what you both like and how to make your lovemaking even more enjoyable.

Talking about sex can also be a turn-on, and add to the experience. It can give you the chance to introduce new elements to your sex life, such as new sexual positions, sex toys or even making love more often or at different times.

You'll also find it easier if you have any troubles or problems, because you'll be more open and relaxed with each other. If you can start talking about sex, you'll soon find that you are trying new things, working through any problems and getting the maximum pleasure from your sex life.

Talking about sex might be difficult if you've never broached the subject before, but there are ways to make it easier. A good way to bring up the subject is to use something you can both focus on. A book, magazine article or TV program can be an easy way to get talking.

Ensure that the communication continues when you have sex. Ask questions about what feels good, and when your partner does something that you enjoy, make sure they know by telling them. Don't be afraid to take their hand and demonstrate how you like to be touched. Encourage them to do the same. You won't automatically know what they like, so don't be ashamed to get them to show you.

Be honest about how you feel. Focus on what they do that feels good rather than what you don't like, and don't say that something is good just for the sake of it.

If you're normally quiet during sex, make sure you both know that you're going to be talking. If you've been silent with your partner about sex in the past, take your time. You'll soon build the confidence to talk more and more about what you want from your sexual relationship.

You'll find out things about each other you never knew, and improve not only your sex life, but other areas of your relationship as well.

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