If you’re looking to improve your sex life, you’re not the only one. Lots of married and unmarried couples of all cultures, religions and orientations want to improve their sex lives with their partner. There’s so much information on the Internet now, that it can be hard to find your way around sex tips, sex advice and what you should do if you want to have better sex with your partner. But we have it all right here - how to have better sex in just one easy step!
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It sounds simple enough - have better sex by talking to your partner about what you like and don’t like in bed. Also, listen to your partner when they talk to you about what they do and don’t like in bed. Sounds easy, right? Not hardly! It’s simple, yes. But easy? Of course not. Why is it so hard to talk to our partners about sex? When we want to let them know we’d rather them go a little to the left, or let them know what they’re doing feels fantastic, we clam up and don’t say anything! Our partners (and ourselves on the flip side of the coin) have no idea if what they’re doing feels good or not, and we’re pretty much in the dark. But talking to your partner about sex is one of the most important ways to make sex better for both you and your partner!
Why You’re Afraid
Many people are afraid to talk to their partners about sex because they’re afraid of rejection. If they communicate to their partners what they want in bed, such as a fantasy acted out or trying out a new position, they’re afraid they’ll be judged or rejected by their partners. Out of self protection and self preservation of our own feelings, we subconciously choose not to share with our partners what we really want in bed, because we’re afraid they’ll judge us and reject us for it.
Another reason you might be afraid to let your partner let you know what they want in bed is that you’ll be expected to perform. What if you don’t do it right? What if they want you to do something you’re uncomfortable with? You run the risk, again, of being judged and rejected. So how do you get past this block of fear so you can finally communicate with your partner about sex and start to have better sex right away?
Do Unto Others What Others Should Do Unto You
First, stop worrying so much about yourself. Focus more on your partner, and let the rest come. Give your partner the 100% judge and rejection free freedom to talk to you about sex. Let them know that they are completely free to say what they would like to say to you about sex, and make sure they know that if they give you any feedback that it is completely welcome. Encourage your partner to talk to you about sex, listen and don’t be critical when they do. Let your partner know that it is ok to talk to you about sex. Soon, your partner will allow you to be free to talk to them about sex, and you will soon have fluid, back and forth communication about sex that will make sex fun and fulfilling for both of you.
Communicating In The Moment
Communicating “in the moment” is difficult - how do you let your partner know that something they are doing feels great, or doesn’t feel very good at all? The answer to this question is quite simple - if your partner is doing something that feels fantastic, be verbal! Make noises, show pleasure with your body and vocally as well. If your partner isn’t really revving you up at all, you don’t have to do or say anything! When they change to something that is working for you, make sure they know it! Also, if you fake an orgasm, you’re only hurting yourself. Your partner will assume that what gave you the “orgasm” will work the next time and the next time, and the only thing you’ve done by faking an orgasm is teach your partner how not to please you.