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Hmmm...I know the question is about sharing e-mail passwords - but I can't help thinking about the bigger issue here.
Considering she's in an 8 year marriage, "trust" is likely a central issue that will come up again. When I work with couples who have ended up together after starting out in an affair, the issue of "trust" tends to come up later, especially for the one who wasn't in the overlapping relationship. In that case, the person has to work hard to prove they are trustworthy, despite of how they got together. But - it's doable for sure.
Ask yourself if this is really about email passwords or if it represents something deeper. Is she behaving in a way that's supporting the idea that she is trustworthy - or not? That's for you to figure out. Listen to your gut - it usually knows.
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Find relationship articles, tips, tools and advice in The Toolbox at www.lisakifttherapy.com.
Learn about Lisa's psychotherapy practice at www.marintherapyandcounseling.com.
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I have been having an affair for the past 8 years with a married woman we shared everything email passwords, bank cards, and cellphones. About three months ago I told her that I deserved better and wanted to be with someone else she was devastated and starting talking to someone else through facebook. I found out because I had her email password. We are now back together but tells me she never talks to this person on facebook anymore. I have a hard time believing and also she doesn't want to give me her password again what should I do?