Developing a positive attitude creates a context within which amazing things can happen! And I am not simply talking about mind-over-matter; I am talking about gaining new insights resulting in a renewed, optimistic perspective.
I have to make a clear distinction between the plethoras of self-help practitioners and their mantras of everything good, come to me! and the biblical, Christian perspective of placing faith in Christ.
This faith isn’t difficult to develop when I begin to understand:
The Maker of the universe is invested in the success of my marriage—after all, our wedding vows are made before God.
I have everything I need at my disposal to bring success in all my relationships—as Christians, we have His Spirit and the Bible.
The greatest requirement for building a positive outlook in my marriage relationship is within myself: the power and ability to change.
Even the destructive things that have occurred in our marriage can work toward the strengthening of our marriage if I will respond appropriately (Romans 8:28 All things work together for good to those that love God…).
We are not alone; there are many other couples working on their relationships-—I can receive encouragement from them, as well as through great resources available for help.
Developing a positive attitude requires a clear action plan that addresses our thoughts and our words. Follow these three declarations, and you will be on your way to building and experiencing the benefits of an optimistic and encouraging outlook!
I will not complain about anything! (Ephesians 5:20, Philippians 2:14) This one step alone will change your life, and change your marriage!
I will speak to myself encouraging words! I will speak (out loud) things that God says are true, regardless of how I feel. (Ephesians 5:19) We spend too much time listening to ourselves, and not enough time speaking to our selves!
Every time I think of my spouse, I will pray, Lord, thank You for giving my husband/wife as your awesome gift. Help me to see the great value of your gift to me!