I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my
attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong
feelings for him and NO, it is not transference. I have felt that
before while in therapy and this is different.
He is very good
looking and I was attracted to him immediately. He always kisses me
on my cheek (lately it is getting closer to my lips) he told me I
was an amazing woman. When I ask him in what way ... he said in
every aspect from my personality to the way I heal to my great
attitude on life. He likes my hair. He said I was wonderful when I
told him I was attracted to him and I thought he was very good
looking and found it difficult to keep my distance from him.
He took my hands in his one time (interlocked) and pulled me toward
him and than back. I know he is not able to respond to me directly
without risking losing his license. Is it my imagination or is he
attracted to me maybe feeling something for me? Or, is he just
being very nice. That is something else too. He told me I was so
nice and it was rare in his buisness to have a patient like me and
he appreciated it very much. I want him and know I can't be with
him. How do I deal with it? I really feel the need to tell him my
feelings before I can let them go. I will be finished soon with my
surgeries and won't see him for 3 months then 6 months and finally
Any advice ?