I've heard you on the radio, and I've been married the same length of time as you, 29 years. We've known each other since grade school. I have cheated on my husband 3 times. He still wants to stay married and rebuild trust but he's got major depression and doesn't know if he can ever get the trust back. The last time I cheated was 3 years ago. I feel terrible about having done so, it was never to hurt him. But now it seems we hang by a thread. I just wonder what the chances are of survival.
Another problem is that even though I love him, I am no longer attracted to him. I care about him deeply but more as a friend. I love "hanging out" with him, as long as we are doing fun things together, but I'm not interested in sex. Also, when I get off work at night I don't want to go home to him. I'm not cheating, but working late to avoid being at home. I think it's because his depression is more than I can deal with. Even if I'm the cause, it's been this way for the past 3 years. Thanks in advance for your advice,
Dear ReaderYou can rebuild your marriage, but you're both going to need to change some things. You don't say if you have kids, but if you do, it's important to try to stay married.
You understand that your behavior has been very immature, don't you? It doesn't sound like your husband is very grown-up, either. You two need to stand up and face each other, and work through the problems. I'm certain your rejection of him and cheating on him has added to his depression; and his withdrawal from you, and probably his self-pity, have turned you off.
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