Day 6 of my 365 day challenge to write…Perception and a lil rotate and balance.
Posted Aug 08 2010 6:12am
I don’t like it when life gives me a little lesson in the area of perception.
I have always been the type that will do things from my own unique standpoint, usually opposite of the box people would put that action in…just so I can push the imposed boundaries perception places on me.
Let’s take going out as an instance.
I love to dance, to listen to good music, to laugh with my friends. Do dress up in some sexy stilettos and be all woman…
That right there places me in a “box” to those on the outside who don’t know me, don’t know my values, don’t know my heart.
I realized this last night.
Ever had one of those times when someone can say something to you …one little sentence, that just turns on the light in your head?
I have learned over the years that perception is the most skewed version of sight that there is.
Perception always goes through a person’s individual filter. That filter is always made from that person’s individual fears, experiences, preconceived notions…judgment.
In this instance, I may love to go out…but you will not find one person that I have ever gone home with. You won’t find a person you can say I have met out and hooked up with, you won’t find me talking to guys…unless I know them.
I don’t go out with same intentions as others. I don’t dress sexy with the same intention as others. I am probably one of the most spotless in the room when it comes to hooking up or meeting people.
The light that went off in my head last night is you can use someone else’s perceptions as either a way to balance and shift things in your life, or you can use them to trip you up and sensor who you are.
Last night, I used a perception as a way to balance and shift something that I didn’t necessarily see prior to that perception.
I realized I have spent most of my life as a little personal crusader against the box.
“Oh, you want to put me there and think that of me just because….well, ok then. I will do it all the more because I know who I am and will not be put into your neat, little box with your neat, little label.”
That has been my life stance.
I am realizing I don’t have to be that way anymore. I don’t have to take on society’s blind ignorance single handedly, like a some kind of superhero. I realized last night that I can hang up my ‘in your face’ attitude and find some balance.
How about you? What do you do with other people’s perceptions when they become targeted at you?
Do you take them and use them to ask yourself some questions? Just to see if there can be a little rotate and balance on some things you might be participating in?
Or do you do as I have done in the past, and let your pride deter you from gaining a new insight or two?
Perceptions may be a skewed version of sight, and never should one take on another’s perception as truth…
But at the end of the day it can allow you to see something from a new and different angle…giving you the choice to stay as you are, or shift a few things…