Couples Counseling Changes Individuals

One of the main reasons to enter into couples counseling is to change the way a relationship is working at that time. Through the transformative power of couples counseling, many relationships are altered and re-engaged in ways that the couple didn’t feel possible. It is a common reaction for couples to find themselves surprised by their completely new relationship and how it affects each of their lives individually, too. That’s because we often consider problems we’re having with others as separate from us, not as an active part of us. Once we begin the therapeutic process, changes occur from deep within and affect everything.

Here’s what Orly had to say:

I thought therapy would be like it is on television, with someone on a couch while the therapist takes notes and nods a lot and then sends you on your way. Our therapy was nothing like that. It was totally different. Our therapy was active and engaging in every way, and our therapist was involved in our process, not just a sounding board. Eleanor and I even laughed and had some fun. We interacted In ways that I thought we never would again.

When we began to change, I began to change. I could handle the stress of everyday life better. I was happy at work again, I even picked up some old hobbies that I had thought I’d lost interest in. I hadn’t, I had just lost interest in the way my life was at that time.

I expected that we would change a bit during therapy. I never expected that I would change, and I never expected to find a new relationship with a woman I had married almost 20 years ago.