The streets are wide enough in most parts to allow at least two lanes of traffic. One lane travels in one direction; the other, it’s opposite direction.
Why then is it so difficult to allow the same on the road of life?
Tolerance: The capacity for or the practice of recognizing and respecting the beliefs or practices of others.
Acceptance: The experience of a situation without an intention to change that situation.
Most believe tolerance to be acceptance.
It is distinctively different.
And if acceptance is not the foundation from which tolerance is extended, the road is oh so narrow. While those traveling down it pretend it to be wide enough to allow both sides.
Acceptance is the opposite of resistance.
Most the world is walking around tolerating…
Where then is the peace?
Tolerance when practiced alone is a slow, boiling suppression.
Tolerance, to most, equals a stalemate.
Although tolerance is better than its counterpart, acceptance partnered with tolerance is the only path to peace.
Acceptance is the purest form of compassion there is.
When we live life from a place of acceptance there is no underlining belief that one way is the right way and that we must tolerate anything. It takes toleration out of the equation. When we live with acceptance all ways are The way.
Think about it. If I go out to dinner with someone who gets on my nerves because she/he is the complete opposite of what I believe or how I choose to be and I “tolerate” them because I believe in peace and compassion and yada, yada, yada… isn’t that an oxymoron?
How is that compassion? And yet this is the way most of us believe. We tolerate for the sake of acceptance; instead of accepting for the sake of living.
Tolerance in this form is still holding on to the attitude and belief that the person you are “tolerating” is in some way defective for what they are and what they believe. How then, can this be true acceptance?
It is the south’s version of “bless your heart”… Bless your heart sounds like such a nice and loving thing to say… yet most the time it is said in a pious and pitying way. “Bless your heart” usually equals “you poor thing.”
Tolerating usually equals standing on your soap box looking down the nose of faux humility all the while believing your way is the superior way and you are granting someone else the permission to be as they are.
Acceptance is the ocean while tolerance is the river.
The river leads back to the sea…
So tolerance is a road towards peace. But tolerance when built on the foundation of acceptance is the sweet elixir of life. The healing balm on this journey we are all on. The unconditional love as endless as the ocean…
Today, I choose to broaden my mind and open my heart in acceptance…