US and Canadian sex therapists have concluded the best sex lasts 7-13 minutes.
The study is the first of its kind and aims to challenge preconceptions about what constitutes good sex (an optimum time for penetration, not including foreplay). Previous studies have shown that men have unrealistic expectations of sex lasting beyond 30 minutes based on porn consumption, which can be detrimental to self-esteem.
Jenay Guardiani and Eric Corty , researchers at Behrend College in Erie, Pennsylvania surveyed 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research to draw from their clinical experiences with clients over past decades. They concluded:
1-2 minutes is ‘too short’
3-7 minutes is ‘adequate’
7-13 minutes is ‘desirable’
10-30 minutes is ‘too long’
And that sex lasting 3-13 minutes is ‘normal’.
“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers said. “Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse.”
“This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction,” said Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. “With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions.”
The Benefits of Ordinary Sex
I had an email from a writer at a popular consumer health mag this week to ask my opinion on this survey for an article on the benefits of ordinary sex. Their readers have said they are fed up with the number of articles about how to have ‘better sex’. They are quite happy having sex once a week in the same position and all the emphasis on chandelier sex is getting them down. The survey is useful then as it draws from clinical experience and case studies to tell it like it is and what is ‘normal’ in the bedroom. 7-13 minutes gives a woman the chance to orgasm, which is why it’s deemed ‘desirable’ I presume.