While looking around the internet I have found several different places to get relationship advice . If you type in "relationship advice" in Google, you get a bunch of top 10 lists and other basically useless information .
Doing a little bit more digging, however, can be rewarding. Searching for "relationship forums" yields a few interesting results.
Looking for blogs about relationships can be a bit scary. Even discounting the porn, there's a lot of material that is questionable. I found several sites that claim to be promoting strong males, masculine males, and that they will help men get the girls that they want to...well, the girls they want to be with.
The thing that is so disappointing to me is how shallow so much of it is . I think there's a certain tendency by some men to focus on the short term gain - the sex. Here at A Good Husband, men discuss the art of building long term relationships.
I don't think that you can talk about building a long term relationship while at the same time being someone who wants to know how to, as one website put it, "find women for casual sex" or "friends with benefits." I think they're mutually exclusive.
There's a faulty men's movement out there that says that if men act more strong, more like the leaders that we were meant to be, then women will fall all over themselves in the rush to get to us. While it's true that men should be okay with being men, with being strong, decisive leaders, it is also true that women want more than just strength . Women want men who care about them. This contemporary men's movement is incredibly selfish. The movement is all about what the man wants. Women want a man who actually cares about them.
Put her needs first . Talk to her. Repeat what she's saying and ask questions so that she knows you understand. I didn't know these things at first, but they're not that hard to learn.
Of course, if you're the kind of man who only wants sex I'm not calling you a bad person. I'm saying that perhaps you're not understanding what a real relationship brings. Besides having a partner you can lean on when times get tough, spend time with (and play Guitar Hero with ), and who is a tireless cheerleader for you, the sex with someone you're married to has a greater potential to be amazing.
Sure, it's fun to be an alpha male. It's fun to be the guy in charge. It's actually fulfilling to at the same time be A Good Husband.