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4 Ways To Save Your Marriage (For Men)

Posted Mar 17 2011 7:00pm

Is your marriage in trouble? No matter how bad, there’s always hope and ways to turn your situation around. Here are five common ways to help create a better, more loving and harmonious relationship with your wife.

Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but it’s how you handle them that’s most important. At Junior High School, I said ‘no’ to drugs. At my wedding altar, I said ‘no’ to fighting. Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No” anti-drug campaign was a huge success. Kids made a verbal commitment and a mental stance to avoid drugs before they were even of the age to be tempted. When they were introduced to drugs, they knew they could “just say no” and not feel alone.

Fighting is NOT harmless. It’s addictive and, if continued, is likely to cause irreparable damage. Certainly there are times when emotions get wrinkled, and the natural inclination is to blow your top. I sometimes have to bite my tongue so I don’t say something I would regret later (since when is self-control a bad thing?)

Having a naturally calm personality has admittedly made it easier for me to think before I speak than it is for some people. But that shouldn’t stop anyone from trying.

No one’s perfect. When the guys get together and the conversation turns to complaining about “what their wives do,” or wife bashing in general, refuse to participate. It shows that you respect and value your wife. Instead, when a “gripe session” gets going, make it a point to start sharing some of her good qualities.

Usually, this alone will steer the conversation into a positive direction and help your friends to also praise their wives — which in turn helps them to respect and appreciate them more too. Knowing that my wife refuses to belittle me in front of friends makes me love and respect her even more.

After a few months or years, most couples get into a comfortable pattern where they always do the same things. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual routine and same behaviors. You can rekindle some of that magic and keep your marriage exciting by simply paying attention to these three important areas:

  • Go on creative dates. Agree to go out and do something you’ve never done before once every week, fortnight or month. It doesn’t really matter what you do, but it’s important to commit and do this constantly. Want some ideas? Go to a winery, museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have a picnic in a park.
  • Spice things up under the sheets. Try new sex positions , techniques or locations. Wear some nice lingerie or introduce some new sex toys into the bedroom.
  • Change up the norm. Buy her a gift just to say “I love you,” give her a nice massage, set up a scavenger hunt that shows how much you care about her with a gift at the end

One of the biggest problems facing couples today is the huge amount of debt they bring into their marriage. Not only are there more divorces, couples are filing for divorce much earlier in their marriage than ever before. Here are some ideas to get your debt and money issues under control.

  • Sit down and prioritize all aspects of your family budget together. Only when you analyze your spending habits will you fully realize where you are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your goals and dreams.
  • Realize that frivolously spending money can be a sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.
  • If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a fancier car, ask yourself why.
  • Take a quick inventory of all the items you own but could really live without. Consider how much you paid for them. What if you didn’t buy those items and had all that money in savings instead? Would it make a difference in how you view your job, your family and your future?

No one said mending a marriage would be easy. It takes time, effort and persistence – but in the end, you can really make it work if you put your mind to it.

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