For some, one-night stands are ideal for no-strings-attached sex, but it can be risky. Follow these tips and rules to ensure your own health and safety.
When you’re young, life is all about getting out there, meeting people, partying and discovering your sexual side. For some, one-night stands are ideal for no-strings-attached sex. But one-night stands are also incredibly risky. If you are the type of girl or guy who loves a bit of one-night action instead of just going home to your vibrator (though that’s fun too!) consider these tips to keep you safe:
1. Use Condoms
This is probably the No 1 rule when it comes to one-night stands. Basically, when you meet someone new, you don’t know where their private parts have been. They might have a sexually transmittable infection, like Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Syphilis, Herpes or Hepatitis. They could even have a life-threatening disease like HIV, AIDS or Hepatitis C. The last thing you want from a bit of fun is to have your life cut short – so a condom is essential. Did you know that these diseases can also be spread both by intercourse and oral sex?
2. Use Contraception
If you’re not prepared for a baby, then don’t risk one. Using a condom is great but they can also tear. So, it’s also a good option for girls to also use other forms like the contraception pill, birth control ring, diaphragms or long-term injections administered by your doctor. Remember, contraception is the responsibility of both girls and guys!
If you’ve found a partner you’re sexually attracted to, it helps to gauge their attitude on safe sex as well. Asking if they have a condom can be a good way of finding this out. If you meet someone who doesn’t care about safe sex, don’t sleep with them.
3. Tell Your Friends
Going home with a stranger can be fun, but make sure you tell a friend where you’re going – don’t just disappear. If the worst happens and something goes wrong, at least your friends will know who you were with and where to look. If you’re feeling unsure, it’s not worth the risk. Stick with your friends instead.
4. Avoid Excessive Alcohol and Drugs
While lots of people believe drugs and alcohol can make sex more fun, it’s actually the opposite: Excessive alcohol and drugs can inhibit sexual stimulation. Alcohol and drugs can also lead you to make bad decisions. And if something goes wrong, you won’t have your wits about you. Drinking in moderation is key when going out.
5. Take Your Phone
When going home with your new-found sexual partner, take your phone and make sure it works. If something serious happens or if you change your mind at least you can call a friend – or an emergency service.
6. Pay Attention to Your Location
If your partner is taking you to his/her place, pay attention to where you are – including the suburb, street and building. Safety means knowing your own whereabouts. Getting into a car with a stranger is always a risk, so just keep in mind that they could be taking you anywhere.
7. Learn How to Say No
This is key if things aren’t going as you planned. Learning how to say No and how to defend yourself can save you from a bad situation. While adult sex games are fun, you should learn how to say no to handcuffs and other objects that can put you in situations where you are vulnerable. If you’re in trouble, run, shout for help, use your phone to call someone or get help from people nearby.
8. Don’t Be Offended
If your one-night stand is successful and fun, don’t be offended if your partner asks you to leave. A one-night stand doesn’t involve any commitment, including spending the night. If the sex has taken place at your home, you also have every right to ask the guy/girl to head home after you’re done. Just be polite about it – put them in a cab if you have to.
9. Talk to Someone
If you’re feeling bad after your one-night stand or if something bad happened, it’s important you talk to someone. This could be a friend, sibling, a therapist or the police. Being ashamed or silent is the worst thing you can do – instead, stick up for yourself and get help. If you don’t, no one else will.
10. Get Tested
Finally, get tested. This can put your mind at ease and is also a means of looking after your own health. Testing is usually free and painless and you’ve got nothing to lose. Remember that getting a clear test is great – but it doesn’t mean you should shirk your precautions the next time around.
These tips and rules should apply every time you’re out, even if your last one-night stand was a big hit.