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How to Make Peace & Achieve Understanding When Opinions, Personalities and Moods Clash

Posted May 07 2012 8:30am
Written by Tera on May 7, 2012 – -

- by Tera Warner

In honor of upcoming Mother’s Day, Father’s Day around the corner and the start of our 90-Day Communication Cleanse, I’m delighted to present this interview with a dear friend and my family counselor. He’s an amazing person and WITHOUT DOUBT my mentor in communication. I learn SO much from him.

This call is a fabulous conversation about how we can learn to understand and appreciate one another in spite of, or actually because of, our differences. I invited him to come and speak to our community during our  “Raw Mom Cooked Dad” series of interviews. If you struggle butting heads with someone you care about, get frustrated with people you can’t relate to, or would simply like to improve and upgrade your own communication habits, you will absolutely LOVE this interview with Darrel.

My absolute mentor in communication and one of my children’s favorite people in the whole, wide world is Darrel. He’s got extensive training in communication human relationships and

I invited him as part of our Raw Mom Cooked Dad summit a couple years ago to help us discuss some of the ways we can

improve our communication with loved ones who do not necessarily share our point of view about health, wellness, ways of eating etc.

Whether food feuds are a concern for you or not, the tools in this call will absolutely help you:

  • Become better able to understand another’s point of view
  • Develop communication skills for helping other people better understand your point of view.
  • The most important thing you need to do if you want people to hear and understand you. (Tip. It has NOTHING to do with talking!)
  • A cool trick to immediately improve  the way you make people feel.
  • How to communicate with someone who is suffering, or has behaviors, ways of communicating or even habits that cause you upset and concern.
  • How to understand and manage your “buttons” when someone really just “rubs you the wrong way.”
  • How to adapt your communication to effectively connect with people who are upset, angry, depressed or overwhelmed.
  • Recognize the tremendous impact you have on other people and how you can IMMEDIATELY and dramatically alter the course of relationships and events by handling YOURSELF before pointing out the shortcomings, problems, inconsistencies or difficulties of another person!
  • How to bring out the best in a person effortlessly so they can move into the best parts of themselves more easily.
  • A powerful tool to improve your relationships with others and the well-being of all people by making one simple adjustment in how you communicate!
  • There are some of the tools and tricks that I apply in all of my communication. If you use this call and the tools that Darrel suggests, you will immediately and significantly improve our relationships with others and help lift people up rather than create more confusion, upset and conflict in the world.


    This interview has a SUPER CUTE theme song that we created for our Raw Mom Cooked Dad Summit. You can listen to it here and check out the lyrics!! Sooooo cute! :-)


    Darrel would be happy to answer any questions you have about situations you might get into and need advice for. You can post your questions below, OR if you’d prefer they remain private, feel free to email me (tera at and I’ll forward your questions directly to him!

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    Posted in Podcasts, Raw Food for Families, Raw Food Health | 15 Comments »

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    1. By Karen Aubert-Roach on May 7, 2012


      I am so excited to be a part of this communication cleanse. I have been seeing a therapist who is helping me with communication with my husband. I’m looking forward to learning all sorts of new tools and will be listening to Darrel’s interview first thing tomorrow morning.
      Thanks for doing all that you do Tera!


    2. By Talia Cruz on May 7, 2012

      I am really sad because I cannot hear the call! Is there another place I can access it? My computer won’t play the audio.

      Thank you,


    3. By D. DalanJe on May 7, 2012

      Hello, Tera, I joined this cleanse hoping to learn to communicate better with my boyfriend.
      He has issues with social skills and communicating. I want to communicate my needs, opinions, etc without him feeling overwhelmed and do so in a loving way that lets him know that just because I am more verbal and passionate, I am not making him wrong. I am sometimes so assertive he feels bowled over. I would like to find a way to use fewer words, make my point but not seem to leave him uncomfortable. This interview has been an excellent start. Thanks so much. I am going to try matching my speed better right away! Peace be with you, D. DalanJe


    4. By simi on May 8, 2012

      Unable to play the interview–kindly assist.



    5. By Lyndi Ouellette on May 8, 2012

      Hey Tera!
      Im excited to listen to this talk but for some reason it wont play anything. Ive tried reloading the page, exiting out of it fully and reclicking on the link in your email but none of that has worked. Any suggestions?


    6. By Gwynne on May 8, 2012

      I’m having the same problem as lyndi and cannot get the talk to load no matter what I try… Super excited for this cleanse though! As a 21 year old I have constant negative and degrading thoughts that get in the way of everything, relationships, valuing myself, socialization and so on. Thank you Tera SO Much for offering this!


    7. By Kerstin on May 8, 2012


      I am really excited about this program and am looking forward how my life will be enriched by this and the interaction with other participants.
      Unfortunately I can’t listen to the recording either. :-(


    8. By Shawn on May 8, 2012

      This was great!!! Thank you Tera!! Your work makes a difference!!


      Reply by Lisa on May 8th, 2012

      I am super excited to learn about this program but I am with the others and cannot listen to the interview with Darrell.


    9. By Katya on May 8, 2012

      I tried to listen using Google Chrome, and it wouldn’t work no matter what I did. When I changed my browser to Mozilla, it played perfectly. Thanks, Shawn, for posting that you could hear it. That’s what caused me to try a different browser to access it.

      Thank you, Tera! This is awesome!


    10. By Tracy Carter on May 8, 2012

      Tera you are the best!!!!

      For some reason the playback is not working help!!!


    11. By Danielle on May 8, 2012

      Great interview, so many tips that will of help me communicate cleaner and clearer. Thanks for sharing this interview with us. I really liked getting this info from a man’s perspective. There was a lot said that I have heard from my husband but somehow took it personally, I am so excited to apply these communication techniques.

      Thanks Darrel and Tera.


    12. By Sprite on May 8, 2012

      I hear you when you say incoming and outgoing communication. And I know that for some of us it is difficult to actually say outloud the words we want to. Let me tell all out there – learn to speak – and to verbalize what you are feeling – if you don’t you risk your health both mental and physical. It took me half a lifetime to learn this. I have been practicing for the past few years on-line. I comment on news on various web pages. I put my thoughts on my FB page. I am now much better at being able to speak in a group or with someone special.


    13. By Mary on May 8, 2012

      Yes, I, too, cannot hear the replay on the blog audio.


    14. By Renae on May 8, 2012

      I find this cleanse coming at the perfect time for me. I have an intersting time ahead when it comes to communication with my 16 year old Son. I know it is my communication style that often holds up our progress and I could sure use some strategies for dealing with growing pains in our family.

      I’m luck we talk all the time, I do notice that technology is a real barrier for our communication and I refuse to become a nag.

      Thanks again I look forward to more pearls of wisdom.


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