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Written by Tera on January 18, 2013 – -
by Tera Warner
At the request of many people in our community, I’ll be taking the time to share some articles and ideas about communication on the blog. While we all know about the power of anti-oxidants and omega fatty acids, few people discuss the fact that you are as alive as you are willing to communicate. What makes some of us more able to communicate and others crawl into our shells? What tricks and tips and solutions can we find to feel more able to confront difficult and uncomfortable situations in our lives. The answers will be found in this series of articles on Communication. Let’s start at the beginning with a look at the only two kinds of communication that are possible.
If you keep on filling a glass of water, without stopping to take a few drinks, eventually it will spill.
The same is true with communication. There are essentially only two kinds: Incoming communication and outgoing communication. Communication you send, and communication you receive. When the balance gets out of whack, you can start to feel kinda funky.
If you listen to too many lectures and read too many articles without taking that information and sharing it, applying it, using it, talking about it, doing something with it, you’ll get stuck in the mud.
If you let someone talk to you too long without putting in a few of your own words, or sharing your thoughts, you may end up feeling irritable, frustrated, woozy and kind of sick to your stomach.
The balance of incoming communication and outgoing communication is one of the most important things you need to understand. In order for real communication to happen, there has to be a healthy balance!
Think of how you feel when you’re waiting for someone to reply to you…
Think of how you feel when you send a message and don’t hear back, or when you call for someone and they don’t answer. It is VITAL that you understand this lesson. Tomorrow we’ll discuss just how important it can be and some helpful tricks for applying this idea in your life!
Since you’re here, receiving this communication, try replying. Take a moment in the comment section below and share something you would like to handle by improving your communication. In the weeks to come as I continue to share more ideas and articles through this “Communication Cleanse” I’ll take time to choose some of the scenarios you mention below and I’ll give some suggestions, examples and explanations about how you can handle some of the different situations you may be faced with.
There’s a reason those inboxes feel oppressive when they start to pile up. There’s so much INcoming communication that you can’t keep up with the OUTgoing communication. Tomorrow I’m going to teach you a cool trick to handle that. In the meantime, start to balance the flow of this incoming message, by:
1. Leaving a comment below this post.
2. Come and chat up a storm on Facebook
3. Simply go out there and apply this idea in some area of your life.
How can you be attentive to the idea of having a good balance of incoming and outgoing communication in your own life? I’d love to hear about it! Information is only ever as useful as you are able to apply it, so before I write another sentence and before you read another line, TAKE ACTION and let me know how it goes!
Love and a Nice Balance,
If you would like to catch an interview I did with one of my mentors and teachers in communication, you can catch it here: http://www.terawarner.com/blog/?p=24460 Coming up in the spring I’ll be hosting a week-long communication retreat here in the Laurentians. If you’re seriously interested in learning more about the tools that I’ll be sharing in the weeks to come, stay tuned and let me know! This will be a life-changing retreat for all who attend.
I tend to interrupt people. and I noticed that I have to up the ante so to speak , bring up another aspect of what is being spoken about, like I have to have the last word. this is from someone who prefers silence , hates mindless chatter and gossip. I can just imagine……ha ha. I’m worse than all of the above.