A new year approaches and perhaps, like me, you're now contemplating how 2006 can be different for you... A new job, a new home, a new relationship, a new way of living your life, perhaps?
Of course, it can be very exciting looking to the future, especially if you're newly 'raw' and life seems full of possibilities, but sometimes to 'get there' or move on we have to leave people, places, habits, beliefs or situations behind that are no longer serving us.
This can be the most painful part of growth as we feel a combination of fear, guilt, loss and anxiousness over the separation and letting go of something or someone familiar.
This is something I have struggled with many times in the past and I daresay I will again in the future, although I am a whole lot wiser to the process now than I was many moons ago!
Hopefully the following quote will inspire you, as it does me, to remember that leaving, so long as it feels deep down like the right thing to do, ultimately means saying "hello" rather than goodbye...
“There's a trick to the Graceful Exit, I suspect. It begins with the vision to recognise when a job, a life stage, a relationship is over and to let it go. It means leaving what's over without denying its validity or its past importance in our lives. It involves a sense of the future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, we are moving on rather than out... It's hard to learn that we don't leave the best parts of ourselves behind, back in the dugout or the Capital or the office. We own what we learned back there, the experience and the growth are grafted onto our lives. And when we exit, we can take ourselves along. Quite gracefully.” -Ellen Goodman