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12-Day Countdown to 2012 – Day 9: Set Your Intentions for Love and Relationships

Posted Dec 23 2011 3:57pm
Written by Tera on December 23, 2011 – -

- by Tera Warner


Think romantic love, snuggly friends, long conversations with people you meet on a train that somehow change your life forever.

These are the real “meat and potatoes” of life. At the end of your days, will you really care what you ate for lunch, or how many calories you burned? Will you really care how many projects you completed? Or will you consider the people you loved and lost along the way?

Relationships, Communication and Well-BeingLearning how to improve communication and relationships may very well be the most valuable thing we can do.

Generally in the field of health and nutrition, we put a lot of attention on food, fitness and fresh air, but the relationships in our lives have a huge impact on our health and well-being.

If you’d like some encouragement for this area of your life, this interview I did with Byron Katie is such an inspiration.

Who Do You Spend Most Of Your Time With?I love the saying that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If that’s true, what does that say about you?

What kind of relationships did you develop in the last year, and how have those relationships lifted you higher and improved your life?

How can you contribute meaningfully to the people in your life and improve conditions where some relationships may not be going so well?

Is there a special kind of relationship that you’re like to create for yourself in 2012?

Set your intentions below and let me know how much room you can make for love, friendship, forgiveness and other great things in the area of Love and Relationships!

Smooches and snuggles,


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  1. By Marié on Dec 23, 2011

    Having moved a lot in the last three years, I don’t have many good friends who live close by. It’s been hard to open up because I’m not sure how long I’ll be around, and I’ve got a lot of close friends spread all over the world that I can talk to when I need to. I’m also a bit of a loner at time, I’m fine on my own. This upcoming year I hope to make new friendships that I will enrich my life. I also hope to make the time I spend with my husband more meaningful. Time for us, not time spent running errands and cleaning together. I want more and better. :D Who doesn’t?


  2. By Dianne on Dec 23, 2011

    To appreciate all the special people in my life and to make them feel loved..To volunteer more and stress over little things less.


  3. By Sasha on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention is to improve the quality of my relationship with my husband, and to call one good friend or family member a week to stay in touch.


  4. By Stephanie on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention for 2012 is too spend more time with my better half and get out of our rut.


  5. By Yanni on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention is to surround myself with wonderful, enriching, healthy relationships- both new and old. I also intend to meet that special someone and reveal in the creation of that experience!!!!!


  6. By Marcy on Dec 23, 2011

    I intend to enjoy my family and try to live in the moment.


  7. By Ivy on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention is to strengthen my relationship with my husband. As well, I intend to make some more friends as I have a very small social group.


  8. By Janet Bartlett on Dec 23, 2011

    My intentions are to fellowship with a good friend, love on my husband more ( we just have to figure out birth control!! ) and hug my children even more than I do now (or as much as they will let me;-)) and looking for greatness in new friendships…


  9. By Debbie on Dec 23, 2011

    Next year my partner Geoff and I are ready to get married and start a family. I feel ready to share my love and wisdom with my children and family. I also intend to keep on learning and having fun in my awesome relationship with Geoff. I desire a close tribe of friends that I can call upon, share good times with and vice versa. I also desire to find a best female friend that I can share all my life experience with and she can too with me. We will be inspiring and up lifting for each other and live closely to each other. I intend to spend more time with my family and tell them that I love them often.


  10. By kathy on Dec 23, 2011

    i intend to make my friendshpips a priority in my life. i intend to make sure that my husband and kids know how much they mean to me through my actions. i intend to put my love for myself high up on the list


  11. By himmie on Dec 23, 2011

    I am going to call my sons every week, and call my mom every month!!!


  12. By Jenni on Dec 23, 2011

    I am very lucky and happy to have a wonderful marriage. However, neither of us have many close friends. I have one close girlfriend. For 2012, I hope to nurture a new friendship with a wonderful friend I recently met that lives out of the area. I hope to find at least one local friend for myself, and that my husband does as well.



  13. By Pat on Dec 23, 2011

    my intention for relationships is more honesty. speak when something is important to me. give considered, loving answers when asked. know myself, stay true to myself.


  14. By Stephanie on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention is to open my heart more so that I can give and receive more love for myself, from others, and share with others. I’m hoping for a relationship too :)


  15. By Christy on Dec 23, 2011

    I intend to spend more time with my family, friends, keeping up with friends in different states and countries, and making memories with the people I’m closest to in 2012.


  16. By Susan on Dec 23, 2011

    My 2012 Intentions for Love and Relationships are:
    To be a more patient mother by responding instead of reacting.
    To find my soulmate, a man that will love me and cherish me and understand me.


  17. By bianca on Dec 23, 2011

    My intention is accept my loved ones as they are, and respect their journey and individuality. I want to demonstrate my love and respect more often, without expecting anything in return. I also intend to become a better listener. I want to get have bigger circle of friends and get to know all kinds of different people and let them enrich my life.

    I intend to appreciate and cherish all the great people that I hold close to my heart, and let them know how I feel, especially my family.


  18. By Lynnette Struble on Dec 23, 2011

    I get to spend a lot of time with my husband of five years, who is retired and at home most of the time. We do a lot of things outside the home together too. I intend to continue my gratitude for and appreciation of the man in my life. He enriches it so much: good, stimulating conversation; warm hugs; shared home chores; and much more. We are both older (65 and 76) and had previous marriages. I cherish him and it is reciprocated. I intend to continue expressing my love for him frequently and in diverse ways.


  19. By Kathi on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention is to make sure I am spending time with people who I enjoy the most and also be open to new opportunities as well.


  20. By Allison on Dec 24, 2011

    Grow, grow, grow! That’s my intention in love and relationships for this coming year. Grow and nurture all those relationships that I let languish unfairly, from my marriage to my kids to those people I call friends but don’t really treat like friends.


  21. By Julie on Dec 24, 2011

    My intentions for this coming year is to laugh more with my husband and family! I used to laugh all the time and others would laugh with me! Over the years, I seem to have strayed from my lighter, funnier side! After all, laughter is the best medicine!


  22. By Tamara on Dec 24, 2011

    Day 9–I feel very fortunate to have a wonderful husband. In 2012 I want to take a more active part in planning dates and showing appreciation to him. I also want to work on getting closer to our 8 children and our 11 grandchildren (since none of them live close by). I also want to continue to keep in contact at least monthly (via e-mail) with dear friends around the world.


  23. By Emily Tu on Dec 24, 2011

    2012 is the year I unite with my soulmate. 2012 is the year we finally meet and welcome each other into our lives!


  24. By Lilach Mutzafi on Dec 24, 2011

    for love and relationship, i set my intentions for 2012 on getting back to a truly loving relationship with my husband, to have more expressions of this love everyday, to build back the friendship and respect between us. to feel loved and appriciated in my relationship with him.
    to be more loving towards my kids, my mom, and myself.


  25. By Daniela on Dec 24, 2011

    Love & Relationships for 2012
    In the last year thanks to meditations and raw vegan diet my life improved a lot giving me a total new insight on many aspects of life and having to spend my professional life talking and dealing with different kind of people, in my personal life and free time I choose only people whose company inspire me, deep conversations, different subjects, culture interchange. I learnt to say NO to small talk and people that listen to me with an open mouth admiring whatever I say. I understand that I have to share what I know with others but when I choose to do so, not in my free time.
    I have the luck to have met a wonderful man 15 years ago who is my soulmate and with whom I am never bored and I like to soend as much time with him as possible.
    I have 2 wonderful kids, who with the years became more and more mature and are now 2 beautiful person to show the wolrd to
    I also have a mum who’s been a friend throughout the years and never judge me.
    I also have a handful of friends who inspire me and are always there for me, to laugh and to cry or to go out and get drunk together putting the world upside down, which is also healty once in a blue moon.
    then there are my childhood friends, whom I always remeber in times like these, they have been like my family being an only child and this is my main intention in this area for 2012, as I am very happy with all the other realtionships in my life, travel to my homeland to see them again.
    Hopefully I will achieve it.
    I am also open to new and inspiring people that may come accross my path.
    Love and blessing to you all


  26. By Elle on Dec 24, 2011

    My intentions in the area of love and relationships for 2012 is to nurture each individual relationship with the members of my immediate family as well as encourage our unity on a whole. A recent family tragedy has made me realize how just “checking in” isn’t enough and that geography is not an excuse for cultivating proper interactions with those I love most. I want my husband to feel appreciated every single day that God grants us, and I would like to make some friends – not acquaintances, but genuine friends.


  27. By Caroline on Dec 24, 2011

    I want to find time each week for my friends


  28. By Joy on Dec 24, 2011

    I lost a precious sister to cancer in August and I am still reeling from that. We are still going about rethinking holidays and such so in the love and relationship area my intentions are to stay close to family


  29. By Tracey on Dec 24, 2011

    I wish to love as if there were no tomorrow. Let go of hurt and forgive easily. Build meaningful relationships and be a positive impact on those closest to me. Encouraging and building up more than being negative. I wish for unforgettable moments with loved ones and strangers. I wish for life changing encounters. I wish for snuggles, surprises and oodles of love to be returned.


  30. By Beth on Dec 24, 2011

    My husband is my best friend and we spend all of our time together outside of work. I wish, sometimes, that I had a great girl friend that I could confide in all the things that my husband just doesn’t understand. Of course, I then realize that I do have friends like this, but I just need to foster those relationships more and so set the intention to do so this coming year. I want to be open to more social opportunities and not pass up the moments that friends want to spend with me…


  31. By Valerie on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention for 2012 for Love and Relationship is to find a man for want to commit himself, engage with me for a long time…I want to built a family with someone ready and searching the same goal. I need a man dynamic, balance, open with ecological consciouness. A relation that both of us will complement and support each other. Somebody sensual, faithfull to his hearth. Need to love animals and nature and want to live in the nature…
    For my friendship relations, I want to continue to nourrish all my friendships that are so precious to me. The same with my family…


  32. By Cindy Alvarez on Dec 24, 2011

    I loved my mother very much when she was alive, but I don’t think I had the best relationship with her. My intention is to keep working on my relationships with my own 2 daughters.


  33. By maple on Dec 24, 2011

    I plan do spend more time with family and friends and work a bit less.


  34. By Barbara on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention for 2012 is to nurture the close relationships I have now and to build even more. I also want to not take my husband for granted and do something every week to let him know how special he is to me.


  35. By Keisha on Dec 24, 2011

    I plan to reconnect with family members and old friends. In the last 10 years, my family has slowly become disconnected and distant. Many family traditions and gatherings have went to the wayside. So I intend to start planning activities to bring us together. As far as old friends, Facebook (of all things LOL) helped me realize how much I miss the time we spent together in the past.


  36. By Robin on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention is to strengthen those relationships that make me happy and lift my spirit and let me do the same for them.


  37. By jkl on Dec 24, 2011

    my intention is to first learn to love myself. it’s been a long process, but one where in 2011 i’ve been ablt to see the improvements that it has on my relationships with others. i also want to find the strength and grounding to focus on my relationship with my boyfriend, who has been on a crazy ride with me these last few years. i know he needs some extra love this year!


  38. By Cloud on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention is to reawaken my relationships. To nurture them and let them know I care with my actions as well as words.


  39. By Isobel on Dec 24, 2011

    I’m blessed with wonderful friendships and my intentions are to be more proactive and more forgiving, let go of small hurts, see my friends as all they can be and relate to more people on a deeper level.

    In my special relationship, I want to be softer, more vulnerable, less controlling and create a space for us to develop into the fullness of who we are.


  40. By mariette on Dec 24, 2011

    this is a biggie- in 2011 i had to say goodbye to many friends as i moved to another continent at the end of the year. so 2012 is a new slate, which i choose to see as an opportunity rather than a scary thought. in the private sphere there is still a lot of work to be done…i will put in attention and be honest, to see things the way they are. that is for 2012 enough to aim for, else my goal becomes unrealistic. in 2011 i hooked up with some old fiends which was so heartwarming, and i will continue doing so in 2012- you need friends to pull you through.


  41. By Ally on Dec 24, 2011

    The questions in each of these blogs are so great and thought provoking. I have to suit down and write out my answer after contemplating each question. Thank you for getting my wheels turning. I had a terrific chat with my dearest friens today about all the things you have been mentioning. I suppose my focus will be to continue learning, healing and improving myself. While also working towards helping others with sport and encouragement, and finding ways to make this earth more peaceful and loving!!


  42. By Tracy on Dec 24, 2011

    My intention is to develope and cherish deep meaningful relations stArting with myself being true to my feelings and thoughts about new changes In my life and eliminating toxic relations


  43. By Mary K. on Dec 24, 2011

    To let go of always pleasing others by being true to myself without the guilt and selfish feelings in saying NO! To nurture and enjoy the fantastic friendships I have, and the love of my soul mate!


  44. By valerie on Dec 24, 2011

    For 2012 I want to always remain in a loving relationship with myself. I want to develop greater transparency in my relationships with others and be able to maintain my integrity and joy. I would also like to be able to weave the threads of my various relationships together to create a rich blend with many textures, blending family and friends in a more harmonious way. I would also like to have a wider circle of friends to do things with, a new group of stimulating and successful people.


  45. By AndreaB on Dec 25, 2011

    Connect regularly and meaningfully with my husband, children and friends.


  46. By Amy on Dec 25, 2011

    I have a great relationship with my husband, we can talk about anything. In my other relationships, family and friends and co-workers, my intention is to own my voice. to speak up when I need to say something.


  47. By moon on Dec 25, 2011

    i will reach out and foster the friendships i have and be open to new and fun relationships with like minded people

    i will be more patient with my loved ones and focus on my blessings rather than what irritates me


  48. By trk_evelyn on Dec 25, 2011

    I am very lucky to live in a relationship that fully satisfy me in every way, I intend to keep that relationship going, to make it grow. I also intend to have a stable relationship with my few true friends.


  49. By Paige on Dec 25, 2011

    To cultivate the relationships that mean the most to me and to stop feeding those that do not. To set healthy boundaries and to speak my truth in my love relationship and to connect on a deeper level.


  50. By annette on Dec 25, 2011

    My 2012 intentions for love and relationships:
    To say ‘I Love You’ more often to everyone – and mean it.
    To ‘be in the moment’.
    To ‘let go and let God’.


  51. By Ang on Dec 25, 2011

    I will continue to enjoy my family and try to live in the moment. I will spend time each week with my friends.


  52. By Marie on Dec 25, 2011

    My intention is to consciously create holy relationship with others – ones based on total truth, 100% integrity and a joint Purpose.


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