Rejection: Why some women are unqualified to become surrogate mothers
Posted Aug 23 2008 3:19pm
Rejection is a harsh word and a harsh reality. No one likes to be rejected especially when trying to help someone else. As painful as rejection can be, in the case of choosing the best candidates to become Surrogate Mothers or Gestational Carriers, it is a necessary evil for any professional in the ART (Assisted Reproductive Technology) feild.
The reasons mostly found in the majority of women who did not qualify for a surrogacy program were emotional or mental issues. Some of these women were mostly "in it" for the money. Others seem immature, unstable or even irresponsible and dishonest. Some seemed like they might have issues giving up any baby that they carried for another couple. Others were already having issues with their own lives that would make it difficult to devote the time and energy to a surrogacy arrangement. Some examples of these situations were divorce, loss of a job, death in the family, or financial crisis. Lastly, some women may think that having a baby for another family would resolve a personal crisis that they have dealt with in their past such as putting their own baby up for adoption.
The reason I am writing about this topic is that all surrogacy agencies have the responsibility to screen their applicants and it's really important that a psychologist or other mental health professional have a session or two with each candidate. If you have been rejected as a potential surrogate (or egg donor) candidate for an ART (Assisted Reproductive Technology) program that isn't to say at some point in the future, when your own personal issues have been resolved, that you can't apply again.