Mistake Number Fourteen of the Top 14 Mistakes Not to Make for Traditional Surrogates and Gestational Carriers: Thinking That th
Posted Apr 27 2010 12:01am
Here we are, Finally! Number 14 is a mistake that all surrogates/carriers tend to make at one time or the other. (This should include Intended Parents.) The Surrogacy process is full of hoops to jump through and often takes well over a year to complete and that is if all goes well with the first IVF attempt. Read below for some of the most common misconceptions. Your thoughts and comments are always welcomed!
Mistake #14-Thinking that the surrogacy process will be fast and easy
This is one of the most common phrases that I hear day in and day out from women who would like to be surrogates or carriers.
" I get pregnant just by my husband looking at me"
" I just think about wanting a baby and the next thing I know, I'm pregnant"
"I have never had any morning sickness and am so happy being pregnant"
Needless to say there is SO much more involved to surrogacy that I can't fit it all into this one post. Here is a run down...you can hum it to the tune of Row Row Row Your Boat! (Just joking)
*You must find a match with like minded Intended Parents
*You have to pass all of the Intended Parents clinics' medical and mental health evalution requirements such as age, BMI, physical health, and be mentally and emotionally prepared (to name a few)
*You must have a legal contract in place
*IUI's must take place at a certain time in your cycle
*It may take several months of IUI before pregnancy (if you get pregnant at all)
*For IVF You must cycle with your Intended Mother or the Egg Donor
*You will have to take medications (shots, pills, suppositories)
*You will have to have an embryo transfer
*You may not get pregnant the first time
*You may have to go through 2 or 3 embryo transfers
*You may never get pregnant with this method, this RE or this clinic
*IF you do get pregnant you will be with your clinic 10-12 weeks
*You have the rest of your pregnancy to go through before you give birth to a baby or babies that will hopefully be close to term.
You see...its not an easy thing which is why YOU are needed...why YOU are special because WHO ELSE but YOU would go through all of THIS for someone else?