Well, we did it. We spent a good part of yesterday calling family to break the news. In the end we decided that having family support right now in this exciting but stressful time of change outweighs the risk that something may still go wrong and we'll have to retract our news. I also told my boss today, so I won't have to come up with new excuses every time I use my sick leave. Alex may tell his graduate advisor as well, but other than that, we aren't planning on revealing my condition to anyone else until the pregnancy is farther along. Thanks to everyone who shared their own take on telling sooner, or later. I really enjoyed reading all of your comments.
Breaking the news to family was mostly fun and sometimes rather entertaining. My phone conversation with my grandmother, for example, who is just a little hard of hearing:
Me:"Hi, Grandma!" Grandma:"Hello, who is this?" Me:"Juliet, your granddaughter!" Grandma:"Oh, Juliet! Where are you?" Me:"Uh, at home, in [undisclosed location]..." Grandma:"Oh, how are you?" Me:"I'm pregnant!" Grandma:"What?"
Me:"I'm PREGNANT!" Grandma:"You're what?" Me:"WE'RE HAVING A BABY!" Grandma:"You're having what?" Me:"A BABY!" Grandma:"Oh... OH!"
Then there's my mother, who immediately asked if I was "surprised." I'm not sure in what universe I could possibly be surprised by my own pregnancy. How after nearly six years of marriage, I might still not be clear on how to make (or not make) a baby. She also said in almost the same breath, "Wow, you didn't waste any time!" and "You took long enough!" (the former of which is a reflection on the fact that we are having a child so close after Alex's planned graduation, and the latter of which reflects the fact that we've been married for nearly six years without producing children). I take this flurry of somewhat nonsensical comments to mean my mother is excited for me.
The rest of our conversation focused mainly on their farm animals. It's kidding season and both my parents seemed to take great pleasure in telling me in gory detail about the latest goat birth, which was apparently a painful and extended one -- the young buck was nearly 10 lbs! Poor mama goat.