We are slowly progressing through all of the necessary hoops required to proceed with our embryo donation to Jasmine and Ken. Yesterday, I received a copy of the embryo report from the girls' cycle. I have to admit that it made me feel very nostalgic. Both Clara and Anna were labeled as compacting and "nice". I found myself smiling with amusement. :)
Unfortunately, Dr. J's office has decided that they do not want to deal with the necessary legal and logistical issues that are required for open embryo adoption. If Mike and I were willing to donate our embryos for closed adoption, it would be no problem at all. We'd simply sign a paper. However, since we want to donate the embryos openly, this complicates matters a great deal. So much so that Dr. J's office doesn't want to deal with the headache.
I have to admit that I'm very disappointed. It is no wonder that many families choose to donate their embryos to research as the legal hurdles that have been put into place make the process an uphill battle and very discouraging.
Luckily, Jasmine is just as much of a "go-getter" as I am. Where there is a will, there is a way!! She has located a clinic a few hours from their home that does have experience with open embryo adoption and we will be moving forward with this clinic with the hope of a transfer in May if everything goes well and according to plan.
The next step for both Mike and myself is a complete physical, bloodwork to screen for STDS, and a psychological evaluations via phone to make sure that we truly understand what we are doing and that all of us - Jasmine, Ken, Mike, and myself -- are on the same page regarding our thoughts, feelings, and expectations for the embryos and the future.
Jasmine has also been working with a lawyer to make sure that everything will be documented legally. I knew there would be a lot of legal documentation when we decided to pursue this option with our remaining embryos. However, I didn't realize we were navigating through seemingly uncharted territory. My hope is that not only will Jasmine have a successful transfer and pregnancy but that we will be able to educate and inform others that open embryo donation/adoption is a viable possibility in the US. Anything we can do to promote and further this cause will be an added bonus. And yet another reason why Mike and I have been both blessed and cursed to travel down the infertility path.
My first post about our experience with Embryo Adoption is here .