Does your child's birthday impact your PPD risk or symptoms?
Posted Aug 27 2010 11:05am
I love Fall. Over the entire course of my life, if you'd ever asked my about my favorite season, I would have most certainly said Fall. From the crisp weather, football season, appropriateness of jeans and a sweater (my favorite outfit) to the beautiful leaves that cover the Northeast, and even North Georgia, I LOVE FALL. I love the colors. In fact, my wardrobe is designed and organized not just by the weight and length of the sleeves of the items, but by color. In the Fall, I wear almost exclusively brown, green, orange and red.
One of the things I decided when I started even considering considering having another baby was that if we did ever try to conceive we'd aim for a child with a different sign. Since y'all know that L's birthday is the same as mine, and I have a particular fondness for Libras, it's got nothing to do with his astrological sign. However, the warm, but quickly turning into cool days in the latter of September and early October inevitably lead to Winter. Even in Atlanta, there's no way around it. It will get cold. It will get dreary. And the darkness, early night-time, lack of outdoor fun, and need for extra clothing and "stuff" will be a part of it.
I didn't realize it until much later when I'd climbed out of the hole and stumbled through the fog. But, L was born at just the time of year when my already fatigued, sleep-deprived self most needed to be outdoors all day, getting much needed fresh air and Vitamin D, and interacting with other people. Instead, day turned to night at 5pm and everyone began hunkering down in their nests, at just about the same time of year when my c-section had healed, I was allowed to drive, and L was sturdy enough to be out and about.
In the few years I have been immersing myself in PMD research and resources I have never read anything that specifically addresses this theory. I'm not claiming it's all my own, because Seasonal Affective Disorder is a real form of Depression that has gotten a fair amount of press in the past decade or so. But, I haven't heard many researchers, or even moms for that matter, talk about the time of year that you conceive or give birth and how that might impact your experience.
God is unequivocally in control, and most of us well know, that even something like conceiving a baby involves more than a mom and a dad coming together in love. The term "trying to conceive" is kind of a misnomer in my opinion. The word "trying" elicits a sense that there is some sort of grand level of control on the part of the participants in the outcome. In reality, as those who struggle with infertility well know, no amount of "trying" necessarily guarantees the desired outcome. Yet, in a perfect world, should I ever have another child by "natural" means, I would, for my part, shoot for a Spring or Summer babe. The ease of a newborn clad in only a onesie, and being able to go out with a freshly showered wet head and naked face, is alluring, especially in those early days when simplicity is so key to success.
How 'bout you? What time of year did you have your child/children? Did that impact your mood and level of fatigue in a positive or negative way? In a perfect world, in which you had ultimate control over when you conceived, what month or season would be your preference?