One of the most amazing things about my son’s birth is watching my fiance with him. I never experienced a true daddy before with his newborn. My first husband was never a daddy and not much of a father. It is a big reason why we’re not together. When my girls were born, I was the one to do everything. I had very little support from him. Anyway, this time it is amazing. I have already written about the ways a daddy can help with nursing and I think my finance read it and is doing everything I suggested.
Honestly though, he is amazing. He changes diapers whenever possible (is it just me or are men so sexy when they change diapers?), he dresses Julian for bed, asks me if I need anything while I am nursing and gets it, does so much to get the girls ready each morning, etc.
He is so in love with his son it makes me happy and a little jealous at the same time. Yeah, mommy takes a back seat to the baby but that’s okay. I wonder at times, if he is jealous of me feeding the baby all the time. I think if he could, he would nurse. However, this is a man who wants the best for all of his kids. He knows that breastfeeding is the best gift we can give to our baby right now and that is more important to him then being able to share with that. My friend actually told me that when her girls were born, her husband told her not to breastfeed because he wanted to share with the feedings. Hello? Being a parent is not about being selfish. Making a decision to bottle feed based on your own wants is so selfish and wrong.
Anyway, I hope that everyone reading this has a partner as supportive and wonderful as mine. It really makes a world of difference. I have experienced both types of partners now and I feel sad to think what I dealt with before. Encourage your men to help. If they’re not the type to jump in, let them know what will help you. A lot of men are clueless when it coms to what women need.