Appointments, Appointments, Appointments....Which ones should Intended Parents attend?
Posted Oct 21 2008 12:20am
You have started your journey down the road of Surrogacy and from the first phone call with your agency owner the appointments started. The first one may have been the phone conference with your potential surrogate and then a face to face meeting and then your surrogate would have her appointment with your RE...should you attend that? Is that something you, as the IP, can attend? What about some of the clinic appointments that your surrogate will be going to once you all have decided to work together? Should you go to the first lining check? And then there is that BIG DAY...the embryo transfer, is that a MUST BE THERE appointment? Can you see where this is going? If you live in a different state or even a different country it is hard to make even the most important appointments but if you can I personally feel the following appointments are MUST attend....
*meeting your surrogate before the signing of the contract
* embryo transfer(s)...Yes all of them!
* the first ultra sound after the positive Beta test (how many babies are in there??)
* the first OBGYN appointment with the DR. (Not the initial with the nurse)
*the 18-20 week ultra sound (is that a boy or a girl?)
*the BIRTH (and if you can come in advance and spend time with your surrogate and her family....YOU MADE IT! Celebrate it!)
If you feel that all 6 of these appointments are not going to be doable for you I would at least make a major attempt at the 3 in red. (or ask your surrogate what would be important to her for you to attend if you are flexiable) Communication via e-mail and phone is so important if you are too far away to come to all the appointments that offer opportunities for you to spend time with your surrogate and your growing baby.