A lawsuit has been filed against a nursing home in Aurora, Ill., and one of its patients, Sylvester Graves, after he allegedly sexually assaulted an older woman who lived there. According to the lawsuit, Graves beat the woman severely and sexually assaulted her in his room at Fox River Pavilion nursing home. The suit accuses the nursing home of failing to adequately monitor Graves and provide security of other residents. Clifford Ward, Chicago Tribune
One of my colleague’s elderly mother recently had to be hospitalized for a brief period, and somehow got it in her mind that her children wanted to put her in a nursing home. The adult children had simply suggested an extra day’s hospital stay since she seemed a bit confused. They wanted to make sure she was just merely having a reaction to the anesthesia used during the procedure, and that she had not had a small stroke.
The mother was terribly upset by this and even now won’t seem to let go of the idea. The reason she was so upset? “Bad things happen to people in nursing homes,” she told her daughter.
As we can see from this article and many more, the mom was not inaccurate. At the same time, this incident got the daughter thinking,: since Mom is getting up in age it is not out of the question that at some point an assisted living facility with a transitional unit for nursing care might have to be an option.
Knowing what I do for a living, she called me for suggestions. I gave her some ammunition for interviewing facility directors, and things to look for, but my primary recommendation was for she and her siblings to work with a Geriatric Care Manager, in order to ensure that Mom was going to be well taken care of.
As the population ages and grown children are faced with these decisions, involving an expert is the absolute best route in my opinion. Thankfully, in this case the mom was still “fuzzy” for longer than a younger person would be after anesthesia, but at least the family now has a plan for the future if the need arises.