What if you are standing on the right side to your Creator/God/Universe/Spirit and looking down at yourself, your life and the situation that you are in right now? Do you see a life of misery or happiness? In your current situation, do you see one of great stress and worry or one that presents an important life lesson? Lastly, do you see someone (yourself in the picture) who is pretty much self-centered or who is generous in spirit?
The position you are in is known as the fifth perceptual position of the Meta-Mirror model that is practiced in NLP. In this position, you are viewing things from the widest perspective of all. You may also find yourself viewing events through the progression of time. It is this position that can also help you see how your ego is working against you.
The Meta-Mirror model is developed by Robert Dilts, the co-developer of NLP, to help individuals gain new insights and understandings about the situations they are in. In case you dismiss this exercise for its simplicity and assume that it is not worth a look, please be aware that it has been well supported by thousands of testimonials from individuals who managed to normalize their blood pressure when they took this position.
The above description is the last perceptual position that you undertake. There are altogether five perceptual positions. Here is a brief description:
The First Perceptual Position – You. In this position, you view things as yourself. You are completely associated with your five senses, what you see, hear, feel, etc. I also call this position as the one whereby your ego is fully vested in. This is the position of the “I” or the “me”.
Having published recent posts about ego, you may assume that this position as bad. On the contrary, it need not be. It is helpful for the person who feels inadequate and have issues in self-confidence and self worth. It helps you find out what you really want. You become assertive and learn to draw boundaries, in this position.
The Second Perceptual Position. You are in the shoes of another person. You consider the situation from this other person’s perspective. You view things from the other person’s reality.
In this position, you develop empathy and compassion for him/her. You may also see how you have been reacting to him/her. It presents you with a choice in adjusting your relationship with him/her.
The Third Perceptual Position. You become the observer. You are in an associated position but view things with a detachment. For example, you are a producer to a screenplay that involves the first two positions. You want both parties to emerge in a win-win situation.
In this position, you do not allow your emotions in to cloud your judgement. You do not take sides. You stand back and view the relationship as it stands before you. It also allows you to feel resourceful and to give a more objective analysis over what has happened.
The Fourth Perceptual Position. This is the position of the “we” or the “us”. It involves all above three perceptual positions and interacting with each other. Robert Dilts define the fourth position from the perspective of the system; that is the team, community, family, etc. When we are in the fourth position, we experience oneness with all members of the system. Robert Dilts points out that “effective leaders are able to identify with the whole system they are influencing”. Taking the forth perceptual position can help us move from a “me” to a “we”.
The Fifth Perceptual Position. As described above.
How to Do This Exercise
In the Meta-Mirror exercise, you assume each position; moving from first to fifth position in turn. Consider using a chalk or a piece of paper to denote the various positions, encircling your “life situation” position, on the ground.
Standing at each position, you try to see, feel and hear from the said perspective. Other than when you are standing at first position, you disassociate from your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs for all the other positions; so that you can gain some objectivity.
You can repeat the cycle many times over until you are satisfied with the results. Always end in the first position so that you can consolidate changes for the future.
Usefulness of The Meta-Mirror Model
The Meta-Mirror model allows you to reframe your mind. It helps you to move from your ego-centered to your Higher Self. In a conflict life situation, you find it easier to let go of your self serving interests and to forgive others. You also see that you can have a choice in releasing yourself from past negative patterns that have not been helpful. In the eventual position, you gain a helicopter and macro view of things.
The Meta-Mirror model has many applications. It can help you gain some perspective in your traumatic or difficult relationships with your loved ones. It can not only assist you in achieving personal breakthroughs but also in the area of business, marketing and sales. Results are positive as you learn how to negotiate more effectively, understand your customer needs better and to streamline your operations. You are also be better able to identify new opportunities for growth, learning and enhancement.
(today’s photo by striatic ) What if you are standing next to God?
Now back to the same question. What do you see, if you are standing on the right side to your Creator/God/Universe/Spirit and looking down at yourself, your life and the situation that you are in? As a creator of your own reality, would you now choose to create a new and different life situation for yourself?