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Be Careful What You Wish For

Posted Oct 23 2008 9:12am

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Be Careful What You Wish For or You Just May Get it – so the saying goes!

Seated quietly in a romantic corner of a dimly lit restaurant was a married couple in their 60s. They brought their glasses of champagne together in a toast. There was every reason to celebrate. It was their 30th wedding anniversary that day.

In a whiff of smoke, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared before them, hovering over the table. She said, “For being such an exemplary married couple and for being loving to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish.”

The wife clapped her hands in delight. She answered first, “Oh, I would like to travel the world with my darling husband.”

The fairy waved her magic wand over the elderly woman, who instantly found two round-the-world air tickets in her hands.

It was now the husband’s turn. He reflected for a moment and then said “Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again.”

He decided to bare his innermost desires.

He said, “My wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.”

The fairy answered, “Your wish is my command.”

She waved her magic wand over the man.

Puff! The husband became 90 years old.

Some Background to “Be Careful What You Wish For”

The joke above is also one of many that can be found, illustrating the phrase “Be Careful What You Wish For”. A little research on the web reveals that this phrase is used in a number of sources such as in the story the Monkey’s Paw; a classic horror story written by W.W. Jacobs, which first appeared in Harpers Monthly in 1902. The story begins with the quote “Be careful what you wish for, you may receive it” - attributed by the author to Anonymous. Thus, there is no telling who the originator of the phrase is.

Now, for the purposes of discussion on this site, let us examine this phrase in relation to intention and manifestation, as follows:

1. The Importance Of Finding Out Your Real Desire
2. Why You Get What You Do Not Wish For
3. You Have No Idea What To Wish For
4. Going For A Wish That Merely Satisfies The Selfish Ego.

1. The Importance Of Finding Out Your Real Desire

Through the many posts previously discussed, we already know about the power of our thoughts. Thoughts are creative. If we want to manifest something, we do so with intention and sustained focus.


However, on the flip side, it also means that we have to be very clear in what we wish for. We may end up with something that we actually do not want. While our manifestation can become a reality, it may also bring with it other problems and headaches.

Say for example, you see having lots of money, as a ticket out of your miserable and stressful job. You set an intention to start a successful business. Applying the principles of the Law of Attraction, you end up attracting truckloads of customers. But because you mistakenly thought that money is your primary aim, you do not choose a business that you are truly passionate in. You end up in a situation that you can barely cope in terms of hours spent at work, doubly stressed than before.

But what if you have set the higher intention of finding fulfilling work, something that you are keen or passionate in? Because you are good in what you do, you start to attract lots of customers who appreciate your work. You no longer see the hours you spent as work but rather as an extension of yourself.

Hence, it is important to spend time having a clear understanding of your real desire, before starting to make an intention. More about how to find an alignment will be discussed later down this article.

2. Why You Get What You Do Not Wish For

Far too often, we experience things and situations that we do not want. It is important to know why this is the case: what we align ourselves with emotionally are the outcomes we manifest.

Hence, if your thoughts tend to be negative and you back them up emotionally, you are more likely to attract negative situations. For instance, if you have been unconsciously been focusing on lack and worrying over your finances, your physical reality is not going to be one of abundance.

You can also observe if your thoughts have been negative by the words that you say. If you utter “I wish ______ ” in anger consistently, you may just get what you wish for.

3. You wanted Blue and Yellow But Got Green

In the book, The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks, it is stated that you will get all the results that you want, if you are clear about everything that you want. But it can be the case that you have no clear idea of what is it that you really desire. In your confusion, you are not able to determine what your underlying intents are.

Here is the example cited in the book. You say, “I want the color yellow, and I want the color blue”. But what you ultimately end up with is green. And then you ask, “How did I get green? I did not intend that at all.” But what actually happened was due to the blending of your various intentions. (Blending the color yellow blue gives you the color green).

The solution that is offered by Abraham in the book? Check with your inner Being. Only your inner Being can sort out the complexities of your thoughts. It does this by guiding your emotions. Hence, pay close attention to the way you feel, and let yourself be drawn to the things that feel good or right to you. At the same time, let yourself move away from those things that do not.

Allow me to share how I have been making some of my decisions lately. In considering my options, I ask myself: Is my intent/desire for the fulfillment of my ego or is it one that is for the growth of my Soul (love, light and peace)? Having a guideline keeps me from getting distracted and making a poor choice. I have every intent to elevating myself (or my Being) energetically and making decisions that align with my Highest Path and Purpose.

4. A Possible Scenario: Going For A Wish That Merely Satisfies The Selfish Ego

Ambition is a Dead Sea Fruit
And the greatest peril to the soul is that
one is likely to get precisely what he is seeking.
— By Edward Dahlberg

You cannot get it off your mind. A longing that hovers in your thoughts, day and night. You toy with your options. You try to figure out how to get the prize. At first, just a gentle idea, the longing soon becomes an obsession, a craving.

In your desperate moments, you consider selling your soul for it. Yet, deep down inside, you suspect that guilt will creep in if you take a drastic measure.

You finally make a decision. You cannot bear it any longer! The wait is just too much to bear. You are willing to take a chance.

You taste the pleasure, the thrill of the moment, the pinnacle of your human experience; the means gotten through the betrayal of your friends, the loss of your conscience, and the hurt that you inflict. Your ego is satiated.

You are happy. Then, you decide that you would like to share your happiness. Let others know. You go around with your prized catch. Your ego needs to know that others will be struck with envy.

But you find no one now. All of whom you have held dear before. They shut you out, just like how and what you have done to them.

It’s okay, your ego says. You have got me and you have got the prize.

So, you sit. At first, happy and then, dismay by the loneliness that now engulfs.

In the quietness, you finally hear a soft whisper: Is the sacrifice worth it?

Knowing arises: the gain of the ego but the loss of love and the shrinking of your Soul. Emptiness ensues. The prize has now become meaningless.

Your Thoughts Please

Do share your thoughts to the phrase “Be Careful What You Wish For”. Do you know what you really want out of your life? How do you determine these things for sure?

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