Why there are People who are Afraid of Getting Married
Posted Jul 01 2008 12:00am
Marriage is a lifetime commitment between two souls deeply in-love with each other. Although nobody dreams to be divorced and couples worked hard enough to keep the marriage, some of them still fail. Consequently, there are those who also afraid to get married. There are many possible reasons behind their beliefs but one thing is for sure, they do not want to be committed. While I am a happily married man, here are some of the reasons I think why others prefer to stay single.
They are afraid of their past
I know how hard it is to be a product of a broken family because I came from one. Some children grew up miserable that they have a trauma about their past. They think that they do not have the ability to maintain a marriage. Another fact that would hinder one to get married is the past failed relationship. It is hard to recover from a serious heartache, some even gone crazy about it. But the worst is when you have a very bad experience before like being raped, which keeps on haunting you until now.
They are afraid of the future
Being married is not a joke, and it takes a strong person to withstand all the hardships that are coming in between. Some people are worried about the rapid increase of expenses and think that their future children will just suffer the consequences. Some professionals, like soldiers who are one-foot on the grave are afraid that their children may loose their father sooner than expected. There are also people who love their work so much that they think that marriage is only a hindrance.
They dislike children
Not all individuals love children, and you may find them weird. They do not like the idea of bringing someone to this world, as well as having sleepless nights when a baby is crying. They prefer to be with their partner alone for the rest of their lives. But just the same, they have their reasons so we must respect them. However, they will be lucky enough if they will find someone who will understand them. As they say, having children is a gift.
They have permanent disabilities
Some people were born without the gift of having a child. This incapability somehow discourages their partner to be committed with them. In addition, disabled people are also afraid that they will be just a cross-to-carry by their children someday instead of being able to raise them the normal way. Being married requires a lot of assets, physically, mentally and emotionally. It will be a burden if someone who do not have all of these but decides to get married. It is the imperfection of the couple that makes a marriage last.