I've been thinking a lot of the idea of being judgemental, and why we do it. Why are we so set on our ideas about things? Why is it so hard to accept that your point of view may not coincide with the reality of the situation?
In my younger years, I was super judgemental. All that post-teen angst combined but that annoying I-know-everything-because-I'm-technically-an-adult now insanity that effects most people under the age of 30. But, the older I get, the more I realize that it's crazy to jump to conclusions about people. That lady you saw yell at her kid maybe actually be the best mom in the world who happens to be having a crappy day. Or the one you saw walking five feet from her infant in the shopping cart is rushing to get so much done that she made a bad choice in that one instance. Someone having a bad moment doesn't make them a bad mom, yet you probably walk by and judge them anyway.
I've come to realize that whatever my opinion is, is just my opinion. I don't know the whole story with that woman I walked by. Heck, I don't even know the whole story if someone tells me what happened, because that's just their version of the truth, undoubtedly colored by their own baggage and point of view. There are three sides to the truth, right? And what happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt?
The reality is who is anyone to judge? You think someone's a crappy parent? I bet there are a dozen people who think the same thing about you. Aren't we all just trying to do the best that we can? I've always preached out acceptance and nonjudgement in this blog. I think part of judging people helps the judgemental feel better about their own lives. Wouldn't the better solution be to work on your own problems and not worry about other people?
Although, with that said, I still say that lady I saw the other day in the SUV at Target with her kids in the back, drinking coffee and talking on her phone as she served through the parking lot of Target so dangerously that everyone literally stopped to watch her....yeah, she's a crappy mom. Just saying.