Why Same-Sex Marriage Would Be the Best Thing for our Economy
Posted Jan 22 2009 3:58pm
Imagine for a minute you're planning a wedding. It doesn't have to be your wedding, or the wedding of a sibling or best friend. Let's say you're a wedding planner. Your job is to create the best, most beautiful, elaborate, memorable and amazing wedding for the happy couple-to-be.
The people that are getting married are career-oriented, ambitious individuals who want to have a say in the plans, but who want someone else to carry them out. They're smart because they've heard of the "Bridezillas" who become obsessed with spending disgusting amounts of money on what's supposed to be a special day and who turn into evil Bitches who will fight for the best, brightest and most expensive wedding ever, despite who they hurt (or how much debt they incur) in the process.
Your job is easy. After all, there are hundreds of vendors in the wedding industry just waiting to help you out. The couple-to-be is relying on you to guide them and help them invest in the special day that will launch their future together as husband and husband, or wife and wife.
Regardless of how you feel about same-sex marriage, this is your job. You are going to be making a nice-size fee for arranging all of the details for their big event. Now, where do you go? Who do you turn to?
In the U.S., the average couple spends around $30,000 on a wedding. That does not include the cost of the honeymoon or engagement ring! This doesn't even consider the cost that is spent by the bridal party themselves or the gifts that the guests purchase for the couple. Imagine what same-sex marriage could do to boost our economy when you consider the following costs:
Bride/Groom Accessories $125 - $400
Groom Suit / Tux $175 - $300
Wedding Dress $1000 - $1650
Hair / Makeup $125 - $215
Headpiece / Veil $225 - $375
Ceremony Accessories $140 - $235
Ceremony Decorations $420 - $700
Ceremony Location $490 - $825
Officiate/Pastor/Priest $175 - $300
Rehearsal Dinner $955 - $1595
Ceremony/Reception DJ $550 - $900
Boutonnieres/Corsages $135 - $225
Bride Bouquet $115 - $190
Bridesmaid Bouquets $180 - $300
Ceremony Flowers $325 - $545
Flower Girl Flowers $35 - $60
Reception Flowers $735 - $1225
Gifts for Attendants $355 - $595
Gifts for Each Other $285 - $480
Gifts for Parents $125 - $210
Shower Invitations $75 - $125
Guestbook $35 - $60
Wedding Invitation & Reply Cards $325 - $535
Personal Stationery $100 - $170
Save the Date Cards $125 - $200
Thank You Cards $65 - $110
Rings for Couple $500 - $1200 (each)
Bridal Consultant/Bridal Planner $1000 - $1650
Photographer $1500 - $2550
Videographer $1100 - $1850
Reception Beverages/Bartender $1660 - $2780
Hotel Room for Couple $200 - $350
Cake/Cake Knife Set/Cake Topper $460 - $775
Reception Decorations $800 - $1350
Favors $270 - $450
Reception Food Service $5680 - $9500
Reception Location $1850 - $3000
Reception Rentals $825 - $1380
Car Rental $225 - $380
Limo Rental $500 - $835
The above costs are estimates, based on rates found in Southern California. I didn't spend nearly half this amount on my wedding (although it was approximate to the cost of my divorce).
Weddings can be put together with a much smaller - or grander budget - but the point here is that there are vendors (that are usually locally-owned businesses) that could benefit from making same-sex marriages legal.
I have never attended a same-sex wedding or commitment ceremony but I know of many couples who would be honored to stand before their friends and family and validate their relationship just as heterosexual couples have been allowed to do for generations.