I have only recently understood the heaviness of the role of "provider" for husbands and fathers. Reading "For Women Only" by ShauntiFeldhan helped me understand this concept more and also observing it in my own husband. I guess reading Genesis also gives me a glimpse into the effects of sin on our men and how "work" and "providing" changed since that crazy day in the garden.
Here's my thought this week: "What am I doing to help my husband be more assured in his role of provider?" Am I adding to his pressure in this huge area of his/our life or am I making it easier?
I admit that I make it hard many times. Probably when I come home with huge shopping bags it adds to the heaviness of "Am I going to be able to keep providing for my family on this level?" It is much more affirming to my man when he sees me saving money instead of spending it on things that really aren't necessities. But red shoes are a necessity when they are majorly "marked down"! And my kids look soooo cute in smocked clothing! I know, it's hard. And men don't get the need for more than one pair of black shoes. They tend to think you can wear your black heels with everything, year round. They don't get it. But we don't get what it's like to always feel like the weight of the world is on our shoulders either.
I tend to think that if I have stuck to the "BUDGET" for the month then I've done a great thing and that's all I need to worry about. But I'm learning that there's more to it than that. My attitude and my display of contentment or lack there of effects my husband. When I am satisfied with the things we have and am thankful for them, then he is strengthened in his role of provider. As I learn to save money, in ways maybe I haven't before, then I am actually adding to his sense of confidence in the area of him being the provider for our family. These are simple ways I can help him in an area I won't ever fully understand because I'm not a man. And thank God I'm not because I would die if I couldn't wear my ten pairs, I mean one pair, of black shoes!
Lord, You are the ultimate provider. Jehovah Jirah is your name! Thank you for the ultimate act of provision that you accomplished on the cross for us. My heart goes out to my friends who do not have a husband to provide for their family. In their singleness, Lord, allow them to feel your provision and protection today. You are their provider. Let them know this reality and experience this reality. Let them call on you and believe you to be their provider in the very specific needs they have. And Lord, for our men, please grant them a dependence on you so the weight of providing will seem less heavy. I know it's built inside of them as a result of our sin but will you give them a sense of confidence in this area. Let us, as wives, listen to your voice as you teach us how to help our guys in this area. Help us to obey if and when you say, " Not the Macy's Sale this time." Let us remember to be content with what your hand has provided already and to trust that you won't stop being our provider. You are enough Lord. Let me live like I believe that. Amen.