Shawn and I are involved parents. We're at every soccer game, piano or voice recital, and just survived the first 4th grade Orchestra concert. We spend quality time with our girls and Shawn helps with homework that I'm not smart enough to figure out.
But really, do we both need to go to the parent/teacher conferences? I don't think both of us need to hear, "She's doing fine", "She's a joy to have in class", "She has met her AR goal and set a higher one".
Maybe if there was a problem and we needed to present an united front. Who knows? I've always just gone. I was amazed at the massive amounts of both parents. I even heard one say they had to hire a babysitter just to come!