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Posted Jan 27 2009 7:43pm

    Ok while I rarely tell you about my days from day to day I think in this case that is exactly what I have to do because it will make more sense that way.

Friday January 25, 2008:

    I had been dreading this day for almost a month. Not only was I going to lose my computer for at least Friday (possibly until Monday) I had depositions I didn’t really want to attend or take, but our social worker was trying to make the day better and she met me in the morning to officially change our program from Vietnam to South Korea. She was so excited it was contagious, and it was obvious unlike Vietnam this program was solid and ran like clock work. She told me how many families there were on “the list” and how those families were matched with the children (usually babies that are five months old at time of referral), she also told me that should our child ever have a sibling, or at least half sibling we were first in line for that adoption (they checked with us to make sure we would want/take the baby before referring it to another family in the area – so that the siblings could stay in touch. I could not have been happier with that as it meant if there was some crazy reason we could not take the sibling they could at least stay in touch. Also, she informed me we owe them less money than I thought as well as the total cost of this adoption will be at least $10,000 cheaper than the adoption from Vietnam. I left this meeting so excited I forgot to get my usual caramel apple cider from the Starbucks where we meet. I stopped by my office before heading to the dreaded depositions. I was not able to check e-mail or even get online so that I could check on the boys (my usual morning routine), but assumed one day would not make it so the boys were not there. I went to the depositions which I found were not as bad as I expected, thank God. On the way back to the office/home I called the office to find out about my laptop and was told that it would be done MUCH later that night and that I probably could not pick it up until Saturday. Which was ok with me, I had already been without it Thursday night, and all day Friday what was one more day really. I hate my husband’s computer so I only use it when I absolutely have to and didn’t on Friday as I knew I would have my computer back on Saturday.

Saturday January 26, 2008:

    We got up later than we thought and so we could not go to the office and get my computer before we left for my nephew’s basketball game! We enjoyed the game and his team won, and then we had lunch with my family, saw an old family friend who is on two week leave from Iraq then went shopping with my mom and my sister. By the time we left my parent’s house, we were going to be right on time to meet one of the partners for dinner and a local community player’s version of the play Mousetrap, which was excellent. By the time we left there it was almost 10:30 p.m. and we picked up my computer and went home. It was almost 11 p.m. before I was able to get online and check on things. All of my home pages for internet explorer had been lost in the computer work and so I had to go to my favorites and find the link to the page for the boys. It didn’t come up, it would not load. I thought it was a mistake so I went to the website and searched for them as I had done in the past. I could not find them no matter what and I realized they were gone, for good. No e-mail from their social worker (even though she had e-mailed me on Thursday to tell me they were still waiting to hear from South Korea). That is kind of how I expected it to happen. Everyone is right I could not be happier that they found a home and will be home long before we could have even have accepted their referral. And I firmly believe that they were there so that we would switch to the South Korea program before I read the following e-mail:

Dear Families

As you are aware, there has been national attention with regard to adoption issues from Vietnam.  It has come to our attention that the Department of State (DOS) will soon make an announcement regarding adoptions from Vietnam particularly concerning the pending expiration of the Bilateral Agreement between Vietnam and the US.  This international agreement meets Vietnam laws which allow the two countries to process international adoptions.  We anticipate the announcement to include the following information:

     1.  DOS is cautioning against families beginning the Vietnam adoption process as they are unlikely to complete their adoption prior to August 31, 2008 at which point the current Bilateral Agreement will expire.  Families in this stage may want to consider other country options.

    2. DOS does not anticipate the current agreement will be renewed in its present form.  Therefore, steps are being taken to work with Vietnamese officials regarding a new agreement.  DOS made the assurance that continued adoptions from Vietnam is their goal.  However, there is the potential that these efforts will take longer than 7 months.

    3.  The Orphan First procedure (where families must file the I600 on the identified child in advance of their adoption travel) is fully in place and operational.  DOS strongly advises families with referrals not to travel prior to receiving official approval from DOS or CIS.  

There is more to it but the part that matters is here. This confirmed my worst fears, fears I thought I would never see happen. We were going to be asked to find a new country no matter what so that our wait would not be terribly long or even never happen, we had not even started our dossier yet. Everything started to make sense to me and I will be forever thankful to Samuel and Gabriel in my mind for keeping me up on another country we could not only be happy with but loved when switched. The day we officially switched they were referred we believe. They will forever have a special place in our heart and we have determined we will most likely never use the name Gabriel and Samuel for any other children. Last night after taking it all in we had a good cry and said a prayer of thanks that our prayers had been answered for Samuel and Gabriel, they have a home sooner than if they had come to live with us. And we will most likely have a referral before the end of the year, of a five moth old baby (we cannot choose a sex, which is fine as we still cannot agree, boy or girl). That baby will be escorted to Chicago, where we can pick it up and begin our new life as parents without jet lag and take our child to Korea when we can all remember and love the country where he/she was born. Please, please, please – you have all been so helpful and amazing, keep it up. I will need it for the next six to eight months for our wait. I do not know how to thank you all for everything, I am forever in your debt.

Some other things:

    1.    I have set up my Etsy store but currently have nothing in it, as I want to open a business account to link it to through paypal. I will let you all know when I have my grand opening! I hope to set up the account Monday or Tuesday, so that I can open the store this week! A couple of days behind my goal but still moved me along faster than usual!

    2.    The puppies are doing amazing! We cannot believe how fast they are growing, I promise more pictures this week! Their eyes should be opening anyday now!

    3.    I will REALLY need your help this week with my Manic Monday goal, Aaron has already agreed so now I need all of my buddies!

    Ok while I rarely tell you about my days from day to day I think in this case that is exactly what I have to do because it will make more sense that way.

Friday January 25, 2008:

    I had been dreading this day for almost a month. Not only was I going to lose my computer for at least Friday (possibly until Monday) I had depositions I didn’t really want to attend or take, but our social worker was trying to make the day better and she met me in the morning to officially change our program from Vietnam to South Korea. She was so excited it was contagious, and it was obvious unlike Vietnam this program was solid and ran like clock work. She told me how many families there were on “the list” and how those families were matched with the children (usually babies that are five months old at time of referral), she also told me that should our child ever have a sibling, or at least half sibling we were first in line for that adoption (they checked with us to make sure we would want/take the baby before referring it to another family in the area – so that the siblings could stay in touch. I could not have been happier with that as it meant if there was some crazy reason we could not take the sibling they could at least stay in touch. Also, she informed me we owe them less money than I thought as well as the total cost of this adoption will be at least $10,000 cheaper than the adoption from Vietnam. I left this meeting so excited I forgot to get my usual caramel apple cider from the Starbucks where we meet. I stopped by my office before heading to the dreaded depositions. I was not able to check e-mail or even get online so that I could check on the boys (my usual morning routine), but assumed one day would not make it so the boys were not there. I went to the depositions which I found were not as bad as I expected, thank God. On the way back to the office/home I called the office to find out about my laptop and was told that it would be done MUCH later that night and that I probably could not pick it up until Saturday. Which was ok with me, I had already been without it Thursday night, and all day Friday what was one more day really. I hate my husband’s computer so I only use it when I absolutely have to and didn’t on Friday as I knew I would have my computer back on Saturday.

Saturday January 26, 2008:

    We got up later than we thought and so we could not go to the office and get my computer before we left for my nephew’s basketball game! We enjoyed the game and his team won, and then we had lunch with my family, saw an old family friend who is on two week leave from Iraq then went shopping with my mom and my sister. By the time we left my parent’s house, we were going to be right on time to meet one of the partners for dinner and a local community player’s version of the play Mousetrap, which was excellent. By the time we left there it was almost 10:30 p.m. and we picked up my computer and went home. It was almost 11 p.m. before I was able to get online and check on things. All of my home pages for internet explorer had been lost in the computer work and so I had to go to my favorites and find the link to the page for the boys. It didn’t come up, it would not load. I thought it was a mistake so I went to the website and searched for them as I had done in the past. I could not find them no matter what and I realized they were gone, for good. No e-mail from their social worker (even though she had e-mailed me on Thursday to tell me they were still waiting to hear from South Korea). That is kind of how I expected it to happen. Everyone is right I could not be happier that they found a home and will be home long before we could have even have accepted their referral. And I firmly believe that they were there so that we would switch to the South Korea program before I read the following e-mail:

Dear Families

As you are aware, there has been national attention with regard to adoption issues from Vietnam.  It has come to our attention that the Department of State (DOS) will soon make an announcement regarding adoptions from Vietnam particularly concerning the pending expiration of the Bilateral Agreement between Vietnam and the US.  This international agreement meets Vietnam laws which allow the two countries to process international adoptions.  We anticipate the announcement to include the following information:

     1.  DOS is cautioning against families beginning the Vietnam adoption process as they are unlikely to complete their adoption prior to August 31, 2008 at which point the current Bilateral Agreement will expire.  Families in this stage may want to consider other country options.

    2. DOS does not anticipate the current agreement will be renewed in its present form.  Therefore, steps are being taken to work with Vietnamese officials regarding a new agreement.  DOS made the assurance that continued adoptions from Vietnam is their goal.  However, there is the potential that these efforts will take longer than 7 months.

    3.  The Orphan First procedure (where families must file the I600 on the identified child in advance of their adoption travel) is fully in place and operational.  DOS strongly advises families with referrals not to travel prior to receiving official approval from DOS or CIS.  

There is more to it but the part that matters is here. This confirmed my worst fears, fears I thought I would never see happen. We were going to be asked to find a new country no matter what so that our wait would not be terribly long or even never happen, we had not even started our dossier yet. Everything started to make sense to me and I will be forever thankful to Samuel and Gabriel in my mind for keeping me up on another country we could not only be happy with but loved when switched. The day we officially switched they were referred we believe. They will forever have a special place in our heart and we have determined we will most likely never use the name Gabriel and Samuel for any other children. Last night after taking it all in we had a good cry and said a prayer of thanks that our prayers had been answered for Samuel and Gabriel, they have a home sooner than if they had come to live with us. And we will most likely have a referral before the end of the year, of a five moth old baby (we cannot choose a sex, which is fine as we still cannot agree, boy or girl). That baby will be escorted to Chicago, where we can pick it up and begin our new life as parents without jet lag and take our child to Korea when we can all remember and love the country where he/she was born. Please, please, please – you have all been so helpful and amazing, keep it up. I will need it for the next six to eight months for our wait. I do not know how to thank you all for everything, I am forever in your debt.

Some other things:

    1.    I have set up my Etsy store but currently have nothing in it, as I want to open a business account to link it to through paypal. I will let you all know when I have my grand opening! I hope to set up the account Monday or Tuesday, so that I can open the store this week! A couple of days behind my goal but still moved me along faster than usual!

    2.    The puppies are doing amazing! We cannot believe how fast they are growing, I promise more pictures this week! Their eyes should be opening anyday now!

    3.    I will REALLY need your help this week with my Manic Monday goal, Aaron has already agreed so now I need all of my buddies!

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