Princess Boy ."The story is about the Kilodavis family and their 5-year-old son Dyson. Dyson likes pink. And sparkly. And dresses. He doesn't just wear dresses inside for dress-up play, but as his every day clothing. He calls himself the "
His mother had a lot of (understandable) reservations when he first started dressing like this and tended to redirect him to more traditional 'boy' things like trucks. For Halloween he wanted to dress up like a princess and her older son said, "Why can't you just let him be happy?" That was the turning point for her. Dyson's father is just as accepting of his son's choice of wardrobe. He says he's just a little boy. "He likes checkers, climbing in a tree, but he likes to do it in a dress ... big deal."
I think it's awesome his parents are supporting him and letting him wear what he prefers. As parents we encourage our kids to be independent and part of that is letting them choose what they wear. How many kids do you see out wearing crazy, mismatched outfits ... but are perfectly happy and fine with it because they got to pick out their outfit?
Is it such a big deal for a little boy to wear a dress? Why does society have to care what this child is wearing? He's not hurting anyone, he's not running around naked, it shouldn't cause grief for anyone else.
How do we, as a society, come to determine what is 'gender-appropriate' anyway? Wasn't there a time when only females wore earrings? And when males started to wear them it was only in 1 ear and that became acceptable because only females wore them in each ear. And now? Its common to see guys with earrings in one, or both, ears. Guys now carry 'satchels.' Guys are ballerinas and cheerleaders. I'm not saying that this is going to cause a huge change in fashion where dresses will be designed for boys, but times do change.
There have been a couple other stories I've read on blogs over the last few months as well. Another involved Halloween and a boy who dressed up as Daphne from Scooby Doo. His mother received negative comments from other mom's about her son's choice of costume. Another one was about a girl who is a big Star Wars fan and was taking a Star Wars water bottle to school ... and was teased about it because 'only boys like Star Wars.' (I have a blogging friend who's daughter dressed up like Darth Vader for Halloween - good for her!)
And why is it generally more 'ok' for girls to play with/dress like etc more 'typical boy' things?
Lucas is only 2 and right now he loves to do anything Kayla is doing. Which means joining her in dressing-up. It also means if she has a barrette or ponytail in her hair he wants one too. He thinks its something neat she gets to have. He watches me put on make-up and wants the powder brush to dust his cheeks. He wants his nails painted too.
So far all of this has remained 'in-house' except one time. There was one time we were going out somewhere and he wanted to keep that clip in his hair. I tried telling him 'boys don't wear barretts' and he replied, 'yes they do!' He didn't have an "I'm-so-upset-I'm-not-getting-my-way all out temper tantrum" but instead he had a crushed look on his face as the tears fell. He genuinely thought it was neat to have that barrette in his hair and had his heart set on wearing it. So I let him. What the heck, we were only going to the post office, what did it really matter? And it was a small clip. And the top of his hair fell over the clip so you couldn't really see it anyway. Obviously I still had a small hang-up about letting him where that barrette out in public and didn't want it too noticeable :)
Watching this mom talk about her son's preferences for pink and dresses makes me question my own acceptance. On the one hand I applaud the Kilodavis's but on the other I think, "wow I really don't know if I would be comfortable letting Lucas out like that." Any why would I not be comfortable? Because of what people might say or think? Because of how it would look? It would definitely take some getting used to that's for sure!
Mrs Kilodavis wrote a book - My Princess Boy to teach children (and adults) to accept and support children for who they are and how they wish to look. She says she hopes that this year, 2011, is the year of acceptance. Acceptance for differences. Amen to that.