Hi, I’m Michele and I work at The Partnership at Drugfree.org and am a mother and a stepmother.
Ever notice how as a parent you find yourself doing things that your mom or dad did? I remember how my mother used to come home from work and immediately start tidying up and scold us for leaving our stuff scattered all over the house. It bugged me then, but now that I’m a working mom, wouldn’t you know it – I do the same exact thing!
2. Sometimes My Kids Take Their Frustrations Out on Me. My children seem to have a really hard time when life throws them a curve ball and they often lash out at me. Science shows their difficulty controlling emotions is due to their developing teen brain . So, I try to build a strong bond and be there for them during tough times. Sometimes I even use the Goodall Effect .
(Find out how mommy blogger Tracey Jackson gives the “I’m here if you want me” message to her moody, door-slamming, “I-want-to-be-left-alone” teenage daughter.)
4. Striking the Right Chord as a Stepmom. I always try to remember that my stepkids didn’t ask to be in this situation and it’s sometimes difficult for them. I love my stepsons as members of my immediate family and I know they love me too but I never try to act like their mother in any way. I think they respect me for it and also, they know that my parents were divorced when I was a kid too - so they know I understand what it’s like.
When faced with challenges, I find it helpful to check in with my favorite TV moms . I especially love Sarah Braverman’s character on Parenthood , because the relationship with her daughter is portrayed so realistically. It gives me an opportunity to reflect on what it’s like being a mom today.
On behalf of everyone here at The Partnership at Drugfree.org, I want to wish you a wonderful and reflective Mother’s Day!
Director of HR & Office Services at The Partnership at Drugfree.org
Mother of Samantha (22) and Louie (20) and stepmother to Nick (32) and Joseph (28)
P.S. Mother’s Day, of course, is a day to celebrate our own mothers too and everything they taught us.