I was very fortunate to have a nice Mother’s Day. My own mother visited with my dad for the weekend, and we had a great time. My husband and I took my parents out to a very special Japanese restaurant on Saturday night for sushi, teriyaki chicken, and shrimp tempura. My children all remembered the day with cards and gifts. I asked my teenagers to write me a poem, and each of them created a true masterpiece! I consider myself truly blessed.
But, for other women, Mother’s Day is a holiday to dread. Our pastor reminded us of that fact at our Sunday morning service. Mothers, for instance, who have lost a child often mourn on this day. I know this to be true as my friend Dawn lost her wonderful and talented son Jason four years ago in a helicopter crash in Afghanistan. Understandably, she still mourns him terribly and is reminded of this loss even more deeply on Mother’s Day as there are no cards or gifts from her son. Other moms have lost their children, not through death, but to drugs, or distance, or a fractured relationship of some kind. They, too, mourn the loss of their child’s companionship.
And we can’t forget those—men and women—who are spending their first Mother’s Day without their own mothers. This day can be a sharp reminder to them that they’ll never enjoy their mother’s love and support again.
When our pastor asked for "joys and concerns" that morning, one woman stood up and thanked the birth mothers of her two adopted sons, women who were courageous enough to give birth to their babies and make sure they were placed in a loving home. This woman was so grateful to have been given the opportunity to become a mom. But that reminded me of another group of women who are sad on Mother’s Day—those who are spending another year not having the children that they so desperately want, whether it’s due to infertility, miscarriage, or just not being at the stage of their lives that they had hoped to be.
So, if you had a happy Mother’s Day, as I did, count your blessings—and count them again. Then pray that those women who didn’t have such a great day will find happiness and comfort in the coming year.