Sometimes we get angry to our children when they do not listen, but the question is: do we listen to them? When we say listen, it does not mean we only hear what they say, we must also listen using our hearts to talk to their hearts. A simple question like “What are you doing, dad?” makes us mad especially if we’re very busy. Come to think of it, if they already know what you’re doing, do you think he’ll still ask you? But then if you ask the same question to him you want a quick answer, don’t you? So I think you are being bias here. Therefore, when our child tries to ask questions, you might as well realize these before answering:
1.0 He is not merely asking a question, he also wants a conversation with you, isn’t that sweet? There will come a time that your child will grow up, he will be very busy and has almost no time to talk to you.
2.0 He trusts you. You are his parent, that’s why he trusts you. He will believe on anything that you say, so be honest when you answer. If you think he cannot understand you; you can use very simple words to satisfy him. Do not wait for him to ask somebody else, or else, he might not ask you again.
3.0 There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers. Your child’s question might be very basic to you, but for him it’s very important. Your answers may not yet be useful in his life, but you’ll be surprise when you hear him say, “Yes, I remember that, my dad told me about that when I was still small”.
4.0 Your child is intelligent. When he asks, that means his brain is working very well, he learns to analyze. He is also practicing his speech. So be thankful, not all children have the ability to talk. So the next time your child ask you a question, pay attention and us your heart. You never know, this may be the last time you’ll ever talk to him.
When my son was already 5 years old, he could still hardly talk. But since we listen to him as if we understand him, he gained confidence which made him very talkative now, and we do not need to bring him to a child specialist anymore.