Hope for Families with Challenging Teens: The Total Transformation Program
Posted Mar 26 2010 4:23pm
I was recently given the opportunity to review a very comprehensive program for parents who are struggling with defiant, obnoxious, even abusive teenagers. It’s called The Total Transformation Program , by James Lehman, MSW. Lehman’s background makes him the perfect person to counsel families with teenagers. He was also a troubled teen, who quit school, abused drugs, and even spent time in prison. During his incarceration, he was ordered to participate in a program that showed him the wisdom in taking responsibility for his own actions. It literally transformed his life. He went on to earn his master’s in social work, and has been working with hundreds of parents for the past 30 years, teaching them how to develop effective parenting strategies for managing their teens’ challenging behaviors.
One thing I love about Lehman’s program (which I’ll describe more in a minute) is that he reassures parents with troubled teens that they are not bad parents. When our children don’t behave in ways they should, it’s normal to blame ourselves. And our kids are very good at helping us do this! But, ultimately, kids are responsible for their own behavior. And this is something they need to learn if they’re going to succeed in life. Even kids who are diagnosed with disabilities, such as ADHD, need to understand that they will no longer be able to use this diagnosis as a crutch when they enter the “real world.” Therefore, it’s extremely important that we, as parents, learn effective skills for helping our kids to hold themselves accountable for their behavior and ultimately function as responsible adults. Another benefit, of course, is a more peaceful home and a more loving relationship with our kids.
The Total Transformation Program, published by Legacy Publishing Company , is comprised of an introductory Jump Start DVD, a series of 7 audio lessons on CD, a Parent’s Workshop DVD, and a Workbook. Parents are advised to take it a step at a time by doing one lesson each week in the order in which they’re provided. In this way, parents really have the time to absorb and practice each lesson, as well as build on each one as they move on to the next. One of the best things about this program is that it’s highly practical. It’s not a bunch of theories and psychological jargon. It actually tells parents exactly what to do in a given situation. It describes precisely what you should say and do for almost every problem you will encounter with a defiant, oppositional child .
You can try The Total Transformation Program free for 30 days (just pay shipping) so you can be sure this is the right program for your family. And along with your purchase, you may request professional coaching and support via phone for just $1 for the first 30 days if you feel overwhelmed with your child’s behavior problems, have a question about implementing the program, or just need a listening ear.
I am very impressed with The Total Transformation Program. Lehman’s techniques are simple to understand, practical and doable, and have been effective for many families. Of course, everyone is different, and there’s no guarantee that The Total Transformation Program will turn your struggling teen around, but you have the potential to gain so much if this program works for you. If you’re fed up with parenting your difficult teenager and don’t know where to turn, I encourage you to check out James Lehman’s Total Transformation Program.