Co-Sleeping: a Perk of Single Motherhood or Just a Pain
Posted Oct 22 2008 4:44pm
When my daughter was born, I slept propped up with four pillows behind me, two under each arm and my daughter on my chest. Yes, I actually slept sitting up... for three months. To this day, I'm not sure how it happened or why I did it for so long.
After three months, she stated wiggling around when I held her at bedtime. So I put her in her crib and she went to sleep peacefully. I didn't have to rock her, sing to her, or anything. She developed a routine almost immediately, 7pm to 7am and two naps a day. I was unusually lucky.
Then, after a few months she got sick. She was miserable and couldn't sleep, so back to my bed she came. She's been here ever since. I would be lying if I didn't say I loved her sleeping with me. Sure, she hogs the bed and often I wake up to her feet in my face, but it's so worth it.
A lot of people I know say that I need to get her back in her bed. Why? I'm single. I'm on a sabbatical from dating, so it's not as if I'm going to have any overnight guests any time soon. I enjoy the bonding of her sleeping in my room. I'm totally with Dr. Sears and the whole family bed concept.
Now, if I were married, I don't know that I'd encourage this. I think couples need private time together. I think it's important for married couples to make time every night to remember that they're not just parents, but two adults passionately in love with each other. But what do I know, I have no first hand knowledge of marriage.
What I do know is being a single mom. And as a single mom, when I wake up half off my bed because my darling daughter decided to sleep diagonally, yes, co-sleeping is a pain. But the rest of time, like when I'm falling asleep listening to her breathing or waking up with her smiling face an inch from mine, I'd have to say it's a definite perk.