Seldom do a husband and wife have the same primary emotional love language.
Looking back, I can see now that my ex-husband and I definitely were speaking different love languages and we never learned to speak each other's language. His love language is Acts of Service whereas mine is Quality Time. The others, outlined in this book by Gary Chapman, are Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts and Words of Affirmation.
Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage.
If you're worried about your relationship or know a couple who are preparing for a lifetime together, The Five Love Languages is a must-read.
UPDATE: If you have read this book, please let me know in the comments how long you and your partner have been together. If you're not in a committed relationship at the moment, please let me know how (or if) this book changed your perspective.