6 Phases in the Wild World of Teenage Dating [Teen Article]
Posted Aug 04 2009 5:35pm
Carina is a 16 year-old high school student in Grade 11. She is interested in dancing and acting and in her free time enjoys writing stories, or drawing.
In the wild world of teenage life, dating is one of the most complex experiences. Here’s how the new species has evolved in this natural-yet necessary-phenomenon.
In any teenagers’ life, dating is an essential part that requires much attention. Many things have changed over the years, since our parents were born in the ice age. Let’s explore the new generation and common themes we see nowadays using our re-enactment. Meet Joe and Jane.
Phase 1 Spotting the Mate
Joe grazes the land filled with those socializing. Sharply, his keen eye spots a pretty girl sitting alone. They make eye contact, exchange smiles, and Joe knows his game is on.
Alright, so it may not happen at all like that. The girl would probably be chatting with her own friends rather than alone, but you get the gist. There’s always some sort of spark at the beginning that attracts one another, and there must always be some sort of “eye sign language” that oddly tends to happen since the eyes are the key to the soul, you know.
Phase 2 Taking the Plunge
Now that Joe’s hunt is over, he makes the move. Joe strolls along until he meets her at the rock where she sits and introduces himself. Her name is Jane and they begin to converse. Way to go Joe.
What happens here is introducing themselves really. Now depending on where you are: a friend’s house, a party, or a club; there would be different interactions. You can introduce yourselves with a first conversation, a first drink, or a first dance. And if everything goes well then you may take things further.
Phase 3 “Meeting”
After a successful hunt and find, Joe and Jane agree to meet more often. They begin to hold “meetings”. This doesn’t mean they are joined, just conversing more often. And, often enough, after one fulfilling graze around, an exchange of a kiss may appear in Joe’s deep hunting tricks.
Many a time, when two hit it off the first time they meet, phone numbers or emails may be exchanged—all this sort of contact information to make you closer and eventually end up dating. However, dating doesn’t mean being in a relationship. This is where “dealing” begins to happen. “Dealing” is a common slang referring to friends with benefits. This is sometimes the hardest step for teens, because you may want more than your “grazing” partner wants to give and vice-versa. Nonetheless it’s usually where you decide if you really are interested in that lucky bachelor.
Phase 4 Grazing Together
Many meets later and Joe and Jane agree to graze together. It is a wonderful time where the two can be more intimate and trusting. But this comes with a lot more responsibilities for the pair. They can no longer “play the field” and should only have eyes for their grazing buddy. None the less, at least now they can parade around happily together without being afraid to hold each other’s limbs.
Alright, so holding each other’s limbs is just holding each others hands! A couple can declare they are a couple, when you physically see them holding each other in public. And though it may seem odd, holding hands is in fact farther than a kiss. Holding someone’s hand displays to others that you care about one another, but there’s all kinds of hook-ups you can have that are just for the fun of it. So there you go! Once they’re holding hands, Joe and Jane have finally made it to a couple status.
Phase 5 Maintenance
Joe and Jane are happy together, but only if both are equally helpful. In order to graze together, they must put some effort in caring for each other’s needs. In the wild world of the teenage life, there are many stressing times that call for a little attention from time to time. So Joe makes sure he is strong for Jane.
Once you have a relationship, keeping it should be easy. One big sign of a faulty relationship is when one partner makes a bigger effort than the other. This could be caused by a change in a person’s behaviour like neglect, poor emoting, dissatisfaction and maybe even being too busy. A healthy relationship should be effortless, but many times it’s hard to achieve with teens and their wanting to date everyone out there—which might be the reason why we go through so many. We’re just growing up and need to experience the feelings for ourselves.
Phase 6 Fighting the Temptress
Joe and Jane are having a great time at a social gathering one day. But suddenly, the new girl saunters in and looks very tempting for a hunter like Joe. She may pull her gathering moves on him, but Joe knows his place and that’s with Jane. In the meantime Jane spots another male from across the land looking very strong with his newly made spear. But just like Joe, Jane knows her place and even when newly-made-spear-man asks her for a dance, she refuses nicely and strolls along back to her average Joe.
Fighting the temptation can be hard at times. Yet again, a good healthy relationship with trust and commitment will prove to make battling the temptress unmistakably easy. Here Joe and Jane show trust by knowing that they will always go back to their partner even when faced with tempting situations.
So there you have it. Some of the different phases a teen couple may usually face and how they hopefully will handle it. I hope you’ve enjoyed this exploration with Joe and Jane and learned something new in the wild world of teenage life.