Vivian is a 14-year-old from Miami, FL. She enjoys music and hanging out with friends. In the future, she hopes to become a psychologist because she loves helping others in their times of need.
Nowadays, adults are finding teens to be more and more lethargic. And they have a valid reason to be: new technologies are causing them to stay at home and sit in front of a screen all day. It may be harder now to have them act upon something when they are used to having everything virtual. But, there are some steps on how to get them toward the path of motivation.
1) Set an Example
If a person sees someone do something before him or her, they will more likely try the action than if it has not been laid out in front of them. For example, if I see my friend eat calamari, and she says it tastes delicious, I will be more compelled to try my own piece of calamari than if she hadn’t eaten it. This can apply to real life as well, such as starting a community service project.
2) Build a Trusting Relationship
This goes with getting along with people as well. In order to be a good motivator, one has to build a relationship in order for the person to listen to what is wanted to be said. One is more likely to listen to a friend than an enemy, right? The friend has to be nice, show that they care, be trusting, and believe in their friend’s potential. If one has someone backing them up and pushing them, it will be harder to fall if they fail and only easier to propel forward if they succeed.
3) Set a Goal
Everyone should visualize what they want to achieve. Visualizing success is the key to moving anyone to begin action. If one dreams big, then the effort will be big to match that dream. If one dreams small, then the action corresponding to that will be of the same size. Goals are an internal motivator used to fuel our bodies to act on our dreams.
4) Be Ready to Compromise
If the unmotivated does not want to do something, it may be because it does not suit their best interests. Ask them the cause for the feeling of not wanting to do anything, and have them answer on how it can be better. Even if the feedback is not what one would expect, it can be constructive criticism to help build up the action.
Don’t let them go through it alone. If possible, always be by their side so they know that they have someone to turn to if something goes wrong. Be like a caring mother: lead them in the beginning but let them be independent as they become more experienced. In no time, they will begin to help motivate others.