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We’ve got to stop procrastinating in unavailable relationships by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Over the years, many a reader has claimed that they’ve been emotionally available to an emotionally unavailable partner. Here’s the thing: ... Read on »
Some people just love trying to come up smelling of roses even when they leave you for someone else by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Have you ever been on the best date ever or best few dates ever, only to be unceremoniously blanked afterwards despite promises of another date? ... Read on »
We must stop reinforcing shame. It’s OK for us to like and love ourselves. by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex What’s so bad about saying that we like and love ourselves? Or, what’s so bad about saying that we would like to get to know ourselves and evolve ... Read on »
Admit The Cover-Up & Stop Overcompensating by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Over the years of writing BR, I’ve emphasised how relationships are 100:100 . We have to own our own and let others own theirs . We have to show ... Read on »
We Have To Allow Our Friendships To Evolve by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex   One of the challenges that friendship can sometimes pose is this desire, whether its on our part or on the part of our friend(s), that ... Read on »
Dodging People’s Projections: It’s Not About Us. Really. by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Have you ever had that disconcerting experience of being accused of something you haven’t done and it turns out that the person is in essenc ... Read on »
Stop letting fear of uncertainty hijack your happiness by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex One of the things that many of us grownups struggle with is uncertainty. We can find it difficult to not know exactly what’s going to happen ... Read on »
Is it my issues or am I in the wrong relationship? by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It can be incredibly frustrating to desire healthier relationships and to have done some self work, only to get into a relationship and expe ... Read on »
If They Won’t Cosign To The Truth, It Doesn’t Invalidate It by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I talk to so many people who feel frustrated by the fact that they see the truth but others don’t or choose not to, because it feels as if the tr ... Read on »
Recovering from somebody doing a U-turn on their feelings or proclaimed intentions by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When we’re confronted with the realisation that our partner has done a  U-turn on previously expressed feelings and plans , it’s understand ... Read on »
Did they just do a U-turn? When a person overestimates their level of interest or capacity for... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When we’re not boundaried with our time and we tell people what we think that they want to hear, we can end up overcommitted, over-schedule ... Read on »
There’s nothing wrong with wanting love and a relationship but the path we choose to achieve... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I listen to people express their desire for a relationship and romantic love and there are a significant portion of these who come across em ... Read on »
Snooping Never Leads To Anything Good by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When I was pregnant with my first daughter, longtime readers may recall that I got into the hidden camera show ‘Cheaters’ where people who ... Read on »
Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It’s not the biggest leap in the universe to think that because you’ve met somebody who shares similar interests to you that you also share ... Read on »
A ‘connection’ or having ‘so much in common’ isn’t the same as... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex “We have an amazing connection”, said so many people who are struggling to understand why they’re not experiencing deep, committed, loving, ... Read on »
Sometimes, you just don’t have anymore energy left to explain why you’re stepping back... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Sometimes we can find ourselves in the position of knowing about what someone has done and not having the energy to get into some big ‘ole t ... Read on »
Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning the other person’s behaviour;... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex As I continue making peace with my past and recognising younger parts of me that still hurt and remember, not only am I committed to being ... Read on »
Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with or condoning the other person’s actions by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex As I continue making peace with my past and recognising younger parts of me that still hurt and remember, not only am I committed to being ... Read on »
Everybody ‘bounces back’ at different rates by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It can feel very bewildering and even pressured when we are wounded by something that has happened but somebody is questioning why we haven’ ... Read on »
Just Because You’ve Agreed To Something Previously, It Doesn’t Mean That You... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex At this time of year, I hear from a lot of people who are battling against what they perceive as  the weighty expectations of their nearest ... Read on »