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Being passive and a pleaser can make you a sitting duck for unavailable relationships by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Sound familiar? You’re agreeable and try not to be or do anything that would give your date an opinion on you. Unsure of who you ... Read on »
Some people collect the friendship of exes and love interests – don’t stay in the harem! by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Talking with a friend recently who was rather enamoured with a chap who was super ambiguous, a little probing revealed that this guy has a h ... Read on »
Moving past ambiguous situations: It’s OK to take a step back when they say that... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When two people are romantically interested in each other, they make it known and it doesn’t turn into this long, drawn out, ambiguous rigam ... Read on »
Are you comfortable with your status quo? by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex   If you’ve ever been involved with a Mr/Miss Unavailable , you will be familiar with being managed right down into their status quo . ... Read on »
‘I Can Change Him/Her’ syndrome: Don’t tie your worth to trying to control the... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When people share their stories with me and a recurring theme emerges, I ask: If we look at this story a different way, why are you consiste ... Read on »
When we’re afraid of letting ourselves or others ‘off the hook’ by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Being let off the hook is about being released out of what could be an unpleasant or at the very least difficult situation, or being release ... Read on »
Buffers: When You’re The One That They Turn To When They’re Unhappy With Their Current... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex We are creatures of habit and have to pay close attention to where there are running themes in our lives because it points to where we are n ... Read on »
Despite ‘good points’, we deal with the consequences of people coming as full packages by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Any toxic relationship that I’ve been involved in, has always kept going due to me essentially cherry-picking what I wanted to remember abou ... Read on »
Understanding why it’s difficult to be trusting when discrepancies with a person’s... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Picture this (adopts Sophia from Golden Girls voice): You meet somebody on a dating website (read: introduction website after all, you can’t ... Read on »
You can change your version of normal at any time by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex When you’ve witnessed or been through a lot of stuff as a child, a chunk of adulthood is spent trying to work out what’s normal because it quickl ... Read on »
Don’t disregard early warning signs or your gut instincts as negative or judgmental –... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Due to the nature of my work and in particular my spidey senses and sniffer dog nose for shadiness and assholery, I can pick up on very subt ... Read on »
Are you sabotaging yourself by not allowing you to be happy? by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Penny intended to feel on top of the world but ended up getting in her own way. She aced it when she’d showcased her work to respected peopl ... Read on »
Understanding why an ex is spreading misinformation about you (or building a case against you to... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Breakups, even expected and mutual ones, often feel like a kick a teeth, but a breakup feels like a mugging when it comes to light that our ... Read on »
Are you inadvertently dimming your light? When you have a pattern of being afraid of outshining by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Last week I had what I refer to as a ‘punchbulb moment’ – a lightbulb moment that punches you in the head, aka an epiphany. I have them ever ... Read on »
Stop giving you a hard time for not having had the perfect or ‘right’ reaction by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex There are times in life when I’ve given myself a hard time for how I reacted to something in the moment. Note that I, like many others, have ... Read on »
Happy Birthday To Me: 37 Thoughts On Relationships, Self-Esteem & Life by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It’s that time of year again – I turned 37 on Monday and we also got the keys to our new home (you can see a pic on Instagram). Exhaustion d ... Read on »
Sometimes the self-compassionate thing to do is to count your stresses so that you gain perspective by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Over the past couple of months, I’ve become increasingly aware of counting your stresses. Sometimes we get so caught up in getting through t ... Read on »
When someone’s imposing something upon you, they’re trying to remove your choice (and... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Over the past few weeks, I’ve frequently used the terms ‘imposing’ and ‘imposed’ and it clicked that you always know that there is a major brea ... Read on »
Judging Isn’t The Same As Guessing: Why it’s time to stop giving you a hard time for... by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex One of the issues that many people who have felt burned by a relationship experience, especially those where the other party unfolded into s ... Read on »
Be careful of basing your self-esteem on the speed and content of text replies by NML Patient Expert Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I’ve witnessed a lot of tensions and conflicts between people due to the expectation that they should have got an immediate or fairly swift reply ... Read on »