“If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.” ~Unknown
When was is managing a chronic illness, sometimes the confusion is overwhelming. The antidote is clarity.
I love this picture of my old pup, Nickster. When I look at it, I see my doggy companion of over 12 years, reveling in the calm and clarity open before him. In his wake, the ripples and chaos of churning water are left behind as he continues to move forward through clear waters.
I absolutely love clear calm waters. Most people would agree that calm clear waters can translate to calm, clear minds as we sit and absorb the peace surrounding them.
Turbulent waters have a beauty all their own – but sometimes it is harder to appreciate the beauty. Sometimes fear can spike, if waters are too turbulent, and you are not sure about what may be coming at you, or if you can withstand the strength of the turbulence. If you focus on the fear, you will only be able to see the churning waters…but if you step back, and focus on one aspect at a time…the waters become clear again in areas – despite the strong forces that may be churning them.
Whew – I seem to be on a water metaphorical streak, eh? I wonder where the heck it is taking us?
How to Find Clarity when you feel lost in Confusion:
1. Knowledge is power, as the saying goes.
Clarity comes in many forms – but one of the most powerful methods of gaining clarity when managing a chronic illness is through knowledge. The internet can be an amazing reference source for gaining new insights, new coping tools, a-ha moments…all with the goal to bring some clarity to a state of confusion or chaos.
2. Practice Non-Attachment in the confusion.
Sometimes we can be too wrapped up in something, and not see the forest for the trees. At times like that, it is often best to take a step back, breathe, rub your eyes (figuratively or in reality) and then take a fresh look. Coming at something from a different angle might help you see things you missed before. Observe without judgement.
3. When in doubt, ask. Don’t assume.
It always amazes me when I am talking to people how many times I hear “Oh – I was too nervous to ask about that. I did not want to bother Mr. X about it” or “I didn’t want to look stupid, so I didn’t ask” or some such thing. Ask, people, ask!!! If you have questions or concerns – you are the only person who can voice them. Ask! Seek the clarification directly. (Remember that other old saying – Don’t assume. It makes an ASS out of U and ME.)
Clear as mud yet?
“The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.” -Pema Chodron