Amy and I both took off work today to attend an all-day education class for all Bethany families. It seems like it would be a long time to sit and discuss adoption, but so many questions were answered and information affirmed that it really gave me a better understanding of what was involved.
My favorite part of the day was a birth mother panel, where a wonderful woman named Jody told us about her decision to release her baby girl for adoption. 19 years later, she wept as she described being wheeled out of the hospital without a baby. Yet amidst the pain, something beautiful was born! Her beautiful, perfect baby was placed with a loving family! Jody's decision benefited not only herself, but the baby and the adoptive family. It struck me that a painful, gut-wrenching decision exploded in love, showering everyone involved with joy and wonder!
To our shock and amazement, Jody then invited that very same baby up to speak! Her birth daughter, Lisa, joined her on the panel, along with her adoptive mother, Kathy. To see Lisa (now 19) sitting between her biological mother and her adoptive mother was truly amazing! She described what it was like to reconnect with her birth mother later in life and what that relationship looked like. One thing was clear: there was no confusion about who her Mom was. She identified Kathy as her Mom and had clearly bonded with her; her birth mother, Jody, was more like her new best friend.