One of my issues with self-help mems like "The Secret" is that far too often we're taught that we need to really push our energies outside ourselves to "create" a better life.
Now, I think some goal-setting and visualization can be positive. But focusing too much on externals, i.e., I "must" have this in order to be happy - that's just a path to frustration. Let go and trust that the right things will come to you in due time.
I know nothing of "The Secret", but can still see your point. I'm a believer in fate, so believing that the right things will come to me makes sense. However, I have trouble letting go. I'm a natural worrier. It's a shame that deep down, I know the right thing will happen, but I have trouble accepting it. It's difficult to relinquish control but it's often the only choice, as sometimes we have no control over the situation no matter what we do.
I do think that we have a hand in our own fates. We can make good choices in life, which will often lead to good things that just "happen." Sitting around doing nothing will get us nowhere but worrying about what we cannot control? Pointless too.
I think sometimes that there is a balance between being motivated and working for things and letting go/surrendering to the universe. Strangely, I find that the more receptive I am (i.e., being in a state of not pushing too hard), many opportunities fall into my lap without my having to work too hard for them. Being in a place of acceptance and gratitude for all the small things to my life has generally led to greater and greater things.
"Strangely, I find that the more receptive I am (i.e., being in a state of not pushing too hard), many opportunities fall into my lap without my having to work too hard for them." This is soooo true. Though, sometimes I'm not even sure if this is so much that pushing pushes things away from you, but that we don't notice the good things already coming towards us when we are so busy pushing.